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Redfan45x
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02 Jun 2014, 3:04 pm

I'm finally about to graduate High School, there is really no excitement within me.
I spent the whole year alone and without friends, I didn't get to do any of the things seniors should do. I won't even be attending the graduation ceremony, it just would not feel right. And I will never feel like I completely accomplished High School because I've missed out on so much.. Meanwhile the last of my friends (9 hours away and never to be seen again) are graduating at my old school and are all as one would imagine, excited and doing things people should do when they're about to graduate.
I really hate this, my life has always been this way and I wonder if there will ever be some quality and meaning to life. I haven't even anywhere to go after High School.
Please tell me someone else is going through this or has?
I mean I just wish I could of had that fun High School life where you do simple things like go to each other's house during lunch and make plans for the weekend and stuff like that...
I would have had so much fun with my friends, am I ever going to have that?
I don't plan on going to college because I know it will be the same only worse.



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03 Jun 2014, 10:27 am

Redfan45x wrote:
I'm finally about to graduate High School, there is really no excitement within me.
I spent the whole year alone and without friends, I didn't get to do any of the things seniors should do. I won't even be attending the graduation ceremony, it just would not feel right. And I will never feel like I completely accomplished High School because I've missed out on so much.. Meanwhile the last of my friends (9 hours away and never to be seen again) are graduating at my old school and are all as one would imagine, excited and doing things people should do when they're about to graduate.
I really hate this, my life has always been this way and I wonder if there will ever be some quality and meaning to life. I haven't even anywhere to go after High School.
Please tell me someone else is going through this or has?
I mean I just wish I could of had that fun High School life where you do simple things like go to each other's house during lunch and make plans for the weekend and stuff like that...
I would have had so much fun with my friends, am I ever going to have that?
I don't plan on going to college because I know it will be the same only worse.


I've gone through similar, don't get the whole rosy 'oh, yeah, high school was so great, wish I could do it again' type of thing I see sometimes.
Couldn't do many field trips or clubs because my Mom couldn't pay the fees or provide the supplies I needed (though I did get to do VICA/IDEA competitions, because my tech ed teacher paid my fees for me, I'm forever grateful, I was kind of invisible until I won a couple of awards through those.) and I didn't socialize with the other students outside of school because my parents would never give me rides or permission anyway.

If you don't want the same old same old as high school, I'd advise night classes so you're with adult students. You won't be missing out on the partying and shopping and whatever that is a continuation of high school, because everyone is missing out on that because they're at school at night, lol. College was way better for me than high school, and I met a couple of friends that I still keep in touch with. (I'm jealous of the ones who finished grad school, I'd still like to go back and do that.)



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03 Jun 2014, 11:15 am

I also have no friends and I have to go to the prom ad baculum.

I'm excited because I will quit this mediocre school and begin a real school. In the other hand, I know I will suffer the lack of friends, and their support and motivation.



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04 Jun 2014, 8:27 am

I never did any of that stuff you said high-schoolers "should." It's not true that they should. I didn't want to, and there's nothing wrong with that. Live for yourself, not for society's warped values. Do you really want all that stuff, or do you want the social status it affords? Social status is meaningless in the long run.

Do what makes YOU happy. You're only hurting yourself by not going to college because you don't fit some ideal. Find a college with a good program in something YOU like--- not what society/your parents/whoever think you "should" like--- and a good disability services department that will give you the accommodations you need. Unless you break out of that mold of doing things according to societal expectations, you'll probably continue to feel unaccomplished.

Do you even know what it feels like to accomplish something only for you and for the advancement of your own future? It's wonderful and something that everyone should experience. Don't deny yourself that; there are more than enough jerks out there who will try to deny it for you. Don't help them along.

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04 Jun 2014, 5:32 pm

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I never did any of that stuff you said high-schoolers "should." It's not true that they should. I didn't want to, and there's nothing wrong with that. Live for yourself, not for society's warped values. Do you really want all that stuff, or do you want the social status it affords? Social status is meaningless in the long run.

Preach it my aspie brotha!
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Do what makes YOU happy. You're only hurting yourself by not going to college because you don't fit some ideal. Find a college with a good program in something YOU like--- not what society/your parents/whoever think you "should" like--- and a good disability services department that will give you the accommodations you need. Unless you break out of that mold of doing things according to societal expectations, you'll probably continue to feel unaccomplished.

High school was kindave a nightmare. A boring one at that. I can't wait for college (community college for me, but whatever!). I don't know where and what and with whom my future life will take me, but I am putting hope that self-guided actions will eventually bring out something interesting.

Good luck indeed. :)



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04 Jun 2014, 9:04 pm

Not going to college due to fear of social life is probably a bad idea. Most people are not going to know eachother in college, it's not like starting at a new high school where everyone knew eachother from middle school. There won't be any pre-formed cliques and it will be easier to make friends. I've found that my college has a Class of 2018 FB page, and from posting on there I already had 3 friend requests. Everyone is as eager to make friends as anyone else apparently. Also join some clubs. That's how I made friends in high school, and how I plan on making friends in college.