I know this is a beaten horse already but...

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I barely (like 1.5 average GPA) finished high school recently and so even though I'm probably not ready, our family has decided to put me through community college.
I'm still growing and am reaching age 16 mentally, hopefully very soon, but until then (and probably beyond) I need help from those who've been through the ringer.
I'm still not responsible enough yet, I feel. I still walked into a class late yesterday (first day of that class) and I still had awkward, childish exchanges with the fellow students. Like I walked in quietly...then I realized there were no seats, and I stood behind a woman at the back of the class for about 10 minutes before the professor acknowledged a seat in the front....I went up and couldn't find the seat...so, so awkward. about 5 minutes later, after he finished talking, I managed to find it and sit. Later that night, I simultaneously lost my backpack and also my dad, who I managed to find a payphone for to call to pick me up. What's strange is that these are the same problems I had in early high school and middle school, and that I believed would be alleviated at around my current age.
Another thing is not attending class if I am late...and especially if there are no seats. That's the worst, most embarrassing situation I have had so far (perhaps thankfully). I do appreciate it when instructors close the door to make a statement. Relieves me of the doubt.

Anyways, is there anyone with a similar experience that can help me out here? I mean I know I lack responsibility, but I don't really have the means to that end.
I'm missing some thought processes here, but there also may be some technical buffers to make things less stressful (as I am currently unequipped with the common sense to handle that stress).
My job starts September 5th, so I will hopefully have some financial assets to fall back on (supplies)

appreciate it.

It doesn't seem to me that you lack responsibility, just experience. If a class was in progress when I arrived, I would stand in back, too. And, in a room of 499 people seated in 500 seats, it is impossible to see the vacancy. Of course, public buildings must observe fire codes which prohibit people from simply sitting or standing in the aisles, so it is a tough call to make. I don't think that your instructor was trying to embarass you, just to help out.

As you repeat your experience going to a new class, the problems will vanish because you will become familiar with the routine.

Good luck!

I'm pretty sure most of the other students were also new to the facility...I recognized a couple of faces.

I have had experiences like the one you described (having trouble finding a seat), but I don't remember the specifics anymore. Yes, it is embarrassing for the moment, but keep going. In a few months, you won't even remember this incident in detail. Don't let it hold you back.

The point isn't this specific instance;i am wondering about my general ability to function here...i know at some point I will stop being such a baby, but I am just wondering if there are some bulletpoints to keep in mind to make things easier for my delicate and fragile Asperger's sanity

My friend:

Everybody wonders what you wonder when they're incoming Freshman. Just observe what the others are doing. Nerdygirl is right: just hang at the back of the room, until the lecturer pauses and takes a break. Better yet, arrive in class about 15 minutes early--you're sure to get a seat then.

You want to be a soldier, right? Well....you have to handle this, too. Soldiering is lots harder than schooling.

I don't think it's just this example that will be the end of my problems, but yes, that would be an obvious solution.
Also, we spoke with my local ROTC administrator and aspergers is an immediate disqualifier