I might as well be the creepy old man here...

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...Who talks about how he yearns to go to college , to have the experience (full-fledged ~ I half-assedly went a bit at/near the standard age) , and how he wishes he could do it now........... . Boo hoo. OH , IF ONLY ! !! !! !! !! !!

are you ok?

What about the full experience do you think you miss?

Living in a dorm? Going to school without having to work along with it? Partying? Belonging to clubs or sports teams, or at least attending the events?

I switched to night classes after my first year of uni, I couldn't take the people around me, they made my education harder than it already was. Going to school with older students was much better for me, less drama, no one wasting the teachers' time (for the most part, there were a couple party boys there).
I hear my coworkers talk fondly about their college years, but, I don't really envy them any of their experiences, so I am curious what you would like to have been exposed to.

...To an extent , all you said , if to greater/lesser extents ~ " Partying " , not so much (he said- trying to appear virtuous-:-)) - Oh , sports participation even less , I suppose.
This is a tear-provoker for me . I feel if I'm ever to move on to somethingg else , I need to get it out of my system. You had a choice . I'm tear-crying now
I'd best go now ...........
I presume you're Australian ?

Well, that was my inspiration for asking. To see if you can get it out of your system more indirectly.
Attending sporting events or debates at a local college? Arranging a short getaway with a couple close family or friends to party and talk about your youth?

A choice? Sort of. I didn't live on campus, so, not having that expense gave me more choices than some people, but, my schools had to be within driving distance of my jobs. I couldn't tolerate the thought of living with other people anyway, so I guess it's a good thing I couldn't afford to live on campus. I was homeless most of college my first time through, renting a room from friends or crashing with extended family as long as I could tolerate it.

Australian? No, I'm American.
My husband's british and lived in australia for awhile, though. Have I picked up some words from him without realizing it?

LOL....you can't help yourself--you're half Brit by default! Hence, you have acquired at least some of the "across the pond" language.

Seriously, Miss Dorkness has frequently offered excellent advice pertaining to both college/university and being out in the "working world."

...I have no friends or adult family of that type ! !! !! Period
Why would being reminded of what I didn't have by "going to something " get it out of my system " ?
To remind me of what I never had , and want so much , and may NEVER have ?
Actually , in fact , going on a " idealized college-y " college campus (when I lived in Santa Cruz ~ UCSC~ Olympia ~ the famed " alternative " college there whose name escapes me now) can/has gotten me at least a lesser degree of down/crying , seeing in front of me what I can't have/wanted/don't have
Going to college , even on mucho aid (Which is a more " respectable " way of being on " the public teat " than SSI-D but it is the public teat all the same ) would be nicer/more respectable than being homeless ...........

..." Uni " made me assume Aussie-ness .
I have adopted it myself , as a phrase for the " full-fleged " university , BA track , " standard " four year , residential I want (While ackn oledging that , yes , I would have to go to junior college/" classes "/night school/community college first . There , have I acknowledged it sufficiently ?)

Well, I was just trying to brainstorm and shake out if there were alternatives.

Personally, I have a few older friends to trade youth stories with, but, will admist that's primarily due to the emotional ties of my nt older sister. But, I never really clicked with people on that level myself until I started working.
I attend a conference every year (and now two smaller events each year) with a bunch of people just as weird as me. We get a couple bottles and sit around and talk and it's that type of camaraderie that I assume people felt at school. My mom still thinks I'm weird, as do all my old school mates, but, I've found a small circle of people that just get me and we can share some experiences. I work very hard to get to go every year, because missing that rare experience is pretty painful to contemplate.

I'm sorry that I really can't grasp the particular pain that you feel on this college issue, since I haven't wanted something that badly myself. Perhaps someone else can offer some more applicable advice.

Oh, and yeah, Uni... much easier to write and say.

...Thank you , re-reading what I said had me pre-crying a little , on expensive FedEx store's computer , likely will not post at all til' the 26th again .
Are these conefrences you go to Aspie/AS ?

No, the events are for architects, engineers and programmers, centered around their design software (some of us fell into the programming on accident due to wanting to streamline repetitive and boring tasks, not something I would've learned about at school, but, my closest friends have all turned out to be programmers... and, yes, even at a conference of pretty weird people, we're considered 'the odd ones' but, people like us because we help them with the software).
Don't get me wrong, it didn't happen overnight, it took me four times attending to even start talking to people, but, it's more like home to me now than home ever was.