Need advice for me going back to college.

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UncannyDanny
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04 Apr 2015, 12:17 pm

Hi. I hope you guys can help me with this.

I used to go to college for a couple of years until my family decided to move to a different state. I wanted to go back to college, but I'm concerned because, recently, I keep hearing about excessive college partying from both films and real life. From what I keep hearing, all the college students do there are drinking, drug consuming, making out with people who they just met, and getting way too wild! Even though I'm 24 years old, I'm not really into college partying and all those ridiculous hogwash they do. I'm asking because I'm worried that I might be persuaded by other people of my peers and might pressure me to do those things just to make me fit in, while I want to do is get a decent degree I want to take and taking responsibilities while at it (isn't that what college is supposed to be about?!). As I said, I keep hearing about them from real life stories and movies, but I think I'm being very pessimistic about this and taking this in the wrong direction.

If anyone can give me useful advice on how I should feel comfortable about this and not getting into this stuff, I'm all ears.



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04 Apr 2015, 12:48 pm

Most of that stuff goes on among those who live on campus. If you don't plan to live on campus, that will make it that much easier to avoid that stuff.

If you do plan to live on campus, I'd suggest talking to someone in the admissions office or whoever is giving the tour about quiet housing and housing for those who are very studious. There's typically at least one dorm where the serious students like to live that has lots of quiet hours and such.

If you are looking at more than one college in your area, check out some of those books that rank schools according to student surveys. Avoid those that have a high "party school" ranking.

Good luck.



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08 Apr 2015, 8:53 am

There is often a lot of partying done, but usually by the younger crows - Freshman who are away from home for the first time etc.

If you are concerned and still want to live on campus I would suggest asking about where the graduate students live - those are often older students who are far less likely to spend their time partying.

I would also suggest getting involved in groups that share a specific interest with you (anime comes to mind as that is what my daughter loves) There may be people in that group who like to party, but there will also be people who don't.

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08 Apr 2015, 12:10 pm

Maybe do online college, commute, or just don't go to the parties... or host your own "study parties/study clubs"