How do you "do" High School?

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This is a question directed at the aspie high school students. How is high school going for you, and how do you "do" it?

Let's face it, high schoool is often not an ideal time for everyone, but for someone with Aspergers, it (typically) is much harder. There is the additional burden of confusing social situations and much harder academic subjects that (so called) NT's simply do not have.

How is high school and how do you cope with it?

I just graduated lawschool,but high school wasn't an easy time for me. I had a tough time finding my "group" of people, and often felt sort of lonely, sad and disorganized.

However I realize looking back that there are specific things I could have done that could have made it much easier

1. Find a hobby or "passion." My mom always kept pushing me to do this, to just make myself happier, but I never really did. I did a number of activities, but didn't always try to "work" at them in the sense my peers did. If you have one, or several hobbies/passions it just makes life much easier and bearable, even if the warm social connection are not as forthcoming.If you have these, you more likely to find like minded people, and have things to really converse about.

2. Take an interest in school, even the hard classes. Really take ownership/interest in school. Even if you feel sort of depressed and anxious, or even if the classes are quite challenging, it is important to do. Not only for your parents/grades sake, but for your own peace of mind. My main challenging classes were Math and Science. They were quite difficult and did not come to me naturally, but.. idk....I wish I tried a bit harder at them.

Be on the lookout for friends or social opprotunies I know socializing isn't always easy, but it is important to find a group of like-minded nice people to hang out with. Not only is it more fun to do than being by yourself, but you become smarter, and more developed as a person, by listening to others ideas/opinions and exchanging them with your own. I had my "group" in high school who I hung out with and who included me... but.. idk... I wasn't as socially motivated to do things with them, and I am not even sure why. I wish I hadn't been in my shell so much

Anyway, let me know what you think of my reccomendations, if they are helpful or not. Also, tell me how high school is for you, and how you cope with its various challenges. Hopefully its all well!

I find high school really exhausting. I find it difficult to be out of the house for so many hours a day, and then have so much homework to do afterwards. My mom puts a lot of pressure on me to get good grades, which adds extra stress.

I am in some clubs at school, which makes it a more enjoyable experience. I have met some amazing people in my clubs, and learned some amazing things. ^.^ So I'm really glad to be a part of them.

Overall though, I really hate high school. So much anxiety...

I am really nervous about summer break ending. It's always so difficult to get back into the swing of things. >.< I'm terrified not knowing what might happen~!

As I just graduated, I can tell you how I did high school:
I didn't socialize that much besides lunch and the occasional football game in the stands. I usually kept to myself and tried to finish my work on time. Unlike the 22 others in the classroom.
I was in a study hall class, so I got extra help five days a week. That helped.
I was also in a club, which was enjoyable...but not as much in the last year or so, since there were no interesting activities...and some activities failed to produce.
I have my hobbies, but I don't usually talk about them to people, as they are special and odd interests no one would really "get." So I had to act at times. Talk about sports, weekends, school, movies and TV.
I had a wonderful friend in HS who used to take me to sports events. He is now working and is too busy to do much.

Anyways, just try your best, focus on grades and assignments, not the latest party or dance someone went to.

focus on academics to get a good education and go to a good college

make a few friends, dont let chances slip away when they come up

this path not for every single person, but one possible path to have a good time in high school and set yourself up for future

Greetings. For me, I found the social aspect harder in my grade 9-10 years. At the end of grade 10, I got an IEP because of my anxiety. In grade 9, I had really bad anxiety, and it has gotten a lot better, but I am still considered to have the same level (mild, moderate, severe) of anxiety as I did two years ago. But I found grade 11 really hard academically. I don't believe I would have done as well as I did without my IEP. I just ordered a book about how to help executive function deficits. I have working memory, cognitive flexibility, and self-monitoring deficits. I am unsure if I have any other executive function problems, but I need better time management skills.

For me, my social skills are improving. I didn't have many friends in grade 9. I had one, but the friendship ended. I have a few friends now, so it's good. I have four friends, but hang out with only two in school.

I am going to grade 12 next year. I am taking a grade 12 online summer school course so I am not as overloaded. I was overloaded in grade 11 and developed what I consider severe handwashing OCD. I don't have handwashing OCD unless under extreme stress. I normally just have intrusive violent thoughts.

Anyways, to the question. How I do it is I use my IEP to help me make sure I can do the best I can. I try to talk to my teachers to make sure what I need. I work a lot longer on stuff to get a high grade because of my learning disability. I always try my best and teachers say I have a friendly personality so. I can't think of anything else to say at the moment. I'll add on if needed be.

I'm no longer in high school, but I only graduated 3 years ago. I absolutely hated it. The social aspect was the worst part. I was the least popular student in the whole school. The other students knew I had a disability and most of the other students didn't want to be associated with "those people" so when I talked to them, they just completely ignored me. They didn't do anything to help me learn to make friends which I had difficulty with and kind of assumed that I didn't want friends so isolated me as much as possible. It was almost like they didn't want me to have friends. I had to be with an education assistant at all time so I wasn't allowed to join clubs.

There were was also this horrible girl who was a manipulative liar and would purposely try and bug me.

I wish I had stood up for myself when it came to joining clubs and fought against the rule or joined a course like drama (which they told me I wouldn't like);

Academically, I was fine though.

Yeah, high school is pretty rough for me. It's just so stressful and exhausting. I really do want to get a good education, but it just feels like every day is ripping apart my mental health. Year 7 and 8 I was constantly stressed and anxious. Now that's eased off, but I have really bad depression at the moment. It makes it so hard to stay focused and motivated. I'm still managing to do quite well academically, which is good. I've had friends, but there's always lots of arguments and fighting and everything, which really takes it out of me when I just want us to get along.

For me, as far as getting through high school, the way I try to do it is to focus on the future. Yes, things suck right now, but I'm hoping to just get through the next three and a half years okay, and then get out there and chase my dream of being an astrophysicist. That's how I try to keep going. It's really, really hard though.

Best wishes and good luck to all high school students,
Rachel

It sucked s**t.
Academically, was very easy.
Socially, was just awful.

Bullies everywhere roaming like predators.....fvckers!