Home-shool has screwed up my life.

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I used to go to a real school, but my behavoior problems resulted in me always being suspended...eventually, my mom pulled me out...now I'm home-schooled, and my mom's really been using it to f**k up my life...I want to go back to real school, but I just can't!! !! !

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I had a lot of problems in my elementary school. People would make fun of me and they would beat me up, so I would fight back. I would always get punished, but they would get away with it. Instead of being kicked out of school, I was sent to a special ed school called Mountainbrook. I like this school better than my old one. Everyone likes me at this school. I couldn't go back to a regular school because I don't like to be around a bunch of people that I don't know very well. It makes me feel very uncomfortable.

I don't know how to help you, but have you talked to your mom about it? Sorry, but that is the only thing I can think of.

Maybe I'll give you the details tomorrow.

I was always forced into a class with kids who wouldn't talk. I had to go to public school, as the school district wouldn't pay for private school. For a couple years, it was OK. But then, I was suspended once for biting a teacher. My mom got meaner after that. I was a victim of restraints, but it wasn't too often. Then, one year in middle school, the school district contracted another company to do the classes. They forced me on a mat and had 4 people sit on me for the littlest things for more time than I actually did work, which was all for babies. Of course, I got kindergarden work all the other times too, but the other things were worse. I wasn't allowed to leave the classroom, even for lunch. And one day, I even got a concussion because of these guys! One day, my mom pulled me out. The school district would not accept any other alternatives, and they thought this was right for me. My mom couldn't send me anywhere else, as we don't have the money for it. So, I'm home-schooled now. I hate it! Basically, I'm in school 24 hours a day! My mother treats me like Hitlre treated the Jews, that's how bad it is! And I have to do religion in this school too! And now I have all these doctors and shrinks, and she ruined New York City because of tehm! I miss riding the school bus every day! But even more, I'd like to go back to regular school for another reason. I'd like to get a nice Fair Lawn girl. But I have behavior problems, and so this will never work out! I want to go back to a real school, but I don't know if I can! What should I do?

It sounds like your school was a really bad one. I can understand why your mother pulled you out of that school.

But if it's not working out for you at home, you need to talk to your mother about it. Don't say, "you treat me badly," because this will upset her. Instead, try to explain what things would be better in school.

But most importantly, you need to tell her how you feel, because you will need her support in any changes.

But she refuses to change!! !! !

Okay.

You are the same age as my older son.

He doesn't have AS but is in a school for kids with behavior issues. Well, half time anyway.

Advocating for a child is tough and many times its easier all the way around. The could be the reason. PROBABLY though, your Mom didn't pull you out because it was easier, she pulled you out because she thought it was for the best.

I can't say I disagree if school personel were violent to you and you weren't learning anything.

I would ask, politely, why she thinks homeschooling is better for you. Once you know her reasons, you can determine if logical. If not, you can gather data to support your view. For example, if she is concern you will not learn enough, YOU research which school you would be going to to determine its graduation rates and standard testing results. If she is concerned about people sitting on you (again) you figure out why that's not gonna happen.

In other words, figure out what her concern is and then address it.

Beleive me, teaching is just as hard for her as being a student is for you.

BeeBee

My mom can't send me to a private school because she can't afford it. The scool district is not willing to, and they insist that this is the right place for me, so the yonly let me be in that place. They'd be willing to accept my mom's rules if my mom got a lawyer, which we can't afford. As such, I'm stuck.

Have you tried showing her that you think you are ready to go to school? Don't explain it to her, show her. It is easy to say that you are gong to change, or that you are ready for something etc. It is an entirely different thing to actually change. As for you mother treating you badly, she is probably very upset (not necessarily at you, just at the situation).

I've had a completely different school experience (and set of problems) than you, so I don't think I could give any other advice. Have you tried to transfer to another school district?

My mother wants to keep me on the bus for as short a time as possible.

And don't you have to live in the same town as your school district?

It seems that they are starting to become more strict about that where I live. I do know that they can make exceptions, but unfortunately your record might not help your case. I had a friend who lived in one city and went to school in another city about fifteen to twenty minutes away. It wouldn't do any harm to find out.

Depends on the state where you live in. Minnesota State Law has such a generous open school policy that you could almost send your kid to school anywhere in the state.

I'm not really sure about NJ.

Are you kidding? Home schooling was the best years of my life.
Schoolwork for 3 days a week, from 7AM till Noon, in a class of 7 kids. Every other hour was holidays. And we went back to school ahead of our respective years. School is full of rubbish, which you don't need to learn.
Only pity was when it ended.
Too bad you had a bad experience, it can be fun with the right mother

Ooooohhh...I was homeschooled, too. It has certainly screwed up my life, I can tell you that!! ! Here is what my mom did to me:

She had what she called an "integrated curriculum". What this boiled down to was that there basically was no curriculum. We learned fractions from cooking, counting from stacking lumber, and drivers ed from steering the pickup truck to another slash pile when we did firewood. We worked hard all day long, almost every day. At night we learned anatomy rubbing our evil stepfather's back. If we had any energy left or had somehow escaped havign to work for a day, we were allowed to do schololwork, although it wasn't strongly encouraged. There were more useful things we coud be doing. I got almost halfway through my algebra book and then my stepfather said I didn't need to learn algebra because I was a girl, and I'd only ever be a housewife, so I wouldn't need it. Besides, when I needed help my mom got mad because she didn't know her algebra either, even though she got to go to high school!! I guess she wasn't paying attention when she got to go!

We worked in the summer. We worked in the freezing rain with soggy cold cloth gloves. We had to ride in the back of the pickup truck in below zero weather. I did get very good at splitting wood...one year we were selling a cord of firewood a day (I got to learn how to measure ourt a cord of wood) and I split most of our family's wood as well. I learned physics (pushing 55 gallon barrels of water offf the truck's tailbed onto a handcart and wheeling it into the house) and sanitation (dumping the 5 gallon bucket we used as a toilet- we had no plumbing!! !).

He didn't let us read very much, and we hardly ever got to play. He figured that if we had enough energy to play, there was something useful somewhere we could be doing, even if was moving the lumberpile rioght back to where it had been the week before.

Now i'm learnign about arthritis. My hip joints are shot from all that work! Yeah, some home schooling really suck.