I dropped my chemistry course

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I had to drop my chemistry course today, because my instructor's teaching style is not good, and there would be no way I could pass my class.

Miraculously, I geet to keep my housing, but I don't know what will happen in regard to financial aid.

I am changing my major, probably to IT.

Tim

Gotta do whatcha gotta do. Best of luck to you!

My biggest fear about dropping the course was worrying if I would get to keep living on campus, because I would have nowhere to go if I got kicked out.

Also, there is a girl I like who has the same interests as me. She likes guys who are goal-oriented, and I am worried that she won't think I'm goal-oriented anymore because I dropped one of my courses.

Tim

Don't worry, Tim. You are clearly still goal-oriented!

You made a strategic retreat not a surrender!

Also, if your goal is to gain skills and credentials for a good job after college you have to find a field that is a good fit for you, and you are making adjustments based on your experience of college in order to do that. You are goal oriented and practical.

Good job. I dropped a course the other day too.

But I'm worried that that woman won't want to be my friend anymore.

I feel like I have to pretend to be someone else to impress others. I feel that I am not good enough for anyone, even though I make a very conscious effort to be.

Tim

Don't worry about it. One time I had to withdraw out of a course myself. I was taking 5 courses at the time! It was my second semester at college. It was a History course, American History. I love American History but I couldn't handle the course because it was way too much reading, I couldn't get into it and I wasn't doing that well in the class.

I may keep my major at geology for now. It turns out that quite a few other students had the same complaints about the professor. So what I am going to do is defer Chem II for the spring semester, hopefully with another instructor.

I learned something from this: When taking any class that has a I-II sequence, always take the "I" class in the fall, and the "II" class in the spring.

Tim

I think it's an Aspie tendency to feel this way, because we have to intellectualize social interactions to some degree. I take my friends and family very seriously and literally when they make general statements about which traits they value or despise in others, and become convinced that they will not want to be around me unless I embody all the traits they value and none that they despise. Of course this is impossible, and I end up having meltdowns when someone discovers something about me that I feel does not live up to their expectations. I'm slowly learning that people like me not because I fit some arbitrary ideal in their mind, but because they enjoy being around me and genuinely care about me.

But nobody wants to see the real me.

Tim

So they're cowards. Look for people with guts.

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This is the way you feel about people, Tim. It might be true in many cases. But it might not be true in all cases!

You're a great guy!

I have very good qualities, I am goal-oriented, yet that is not attracting people.

Tim

Lots of people drop a course in their college career. I wound up dropping one of my courses one year simply because I hated the material, and I just couldn't force myself to get through the class. (It was an in-major elective, I/O psychology. I don't want to be a consultant...) There's all sorts of reasons that someone would drop a class, and many of them are perfectly reasonable. If she were to think less of you for just this, and without trying to find out your reasoning for it, that wouldn't be very fair.

Give it time. That whole "patience patience patience" thing. (I know I always hated hearing that...but to some degree I've found it to be true.) Nobody was really interested in me until near the end of my third year at college.

I am convinced that the only type of woman who will go out with me is one who is so desperate, she'll go out with the first guy who shows her any sort of attention, and for me, it's all a matter of being that guy.

Tim

Shhhh....no. Don't say that. I would much rather believe that the one person that actually went out on dates with me a couple of times wasn't completely desperate. That may be how things actually were, but I'd rather believe otherwise.