lonelyLady wrote:
what's your program of study, out of curiosity? I wouldn't let one prof color your perception. Have you talked to any other profs about getting into grad school and your chances? When I was applying for grad schools, I had a number of profs telling me my chances are zero because my GREs aren't perfect enough, I don't have a specific enough area of research, etc. etc., and guess what?! I ended up being accepted by most places I applied to. There are some very negative people out there, and I wouldn't let them bring you down. I have absolutely no social skills, yet I found that getting along with profs is easier than with my peers. Just talk about their research and show your enthusiasm, and they would love you.
I'm doing my last year of grad school, getting a master's in community and public health nursing. Getting a PhD in nursing is very competitive because there is a lack of faculty to sponsor PhD students. The reason is economic: in the US and most industrialized countries, there is a huge nursing shortage, and nurses who work in hospitals can expect to make almost $100,000 a year. Whereas your typical Associate Professor makes much less than that. So if you're a nurse, do you go for the money or do you teach? Most go for the money.
Anyway, about the relationships. I'm good at making relationships, but not good at sustaining them. I've had my advisor for a year now, and stress out that she'll not like me at some point in the future because I eventually sabotage many relationships.