not going to my convocation ceremony (university)

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I don't graduate till summer, but people have asked me about convocation already. I don't see the point in walking across the stage in a gown and all that crap. I hate my high school graduation, it was so awkward and uncomfortable... I have hated university. Four years of emotional and psychological pain, basically. I just want out of there. They can mail me my degree, I'm probably just skipping town a week after I write my last final.

Is there any point to going to convocation? I don't have any friends there, my only family is my mom and dad, and I have no gf or anything. Is there any point to going? If I ask my parents if they want me to go, they will say it doesn't matter if I don't want to go, but I will feel bad if I am denying them something. I just hate university because it represents me hating my life and feeling bad for who I am. I don't feel any sense of accomplishment in finishing my degree with honors, it feels like the bare minimum and I just want to forget about it and pretend it never happened. I don't have any happy memories of my life there and I don't think I should prolong it, it just feels like I did it all for nothing sometimes.

The whole scene with the gown....yeah >< i know what ya mean, i never liked the "prestigious" events much that come with school.... Like the prom bal or huh... something like that... I got my secondary diploma from someone else, with very few people, was better that way. (Think it was only 1 person, me + the parents)

In high school I walked the stage... and it was just weird. I wasn't friends with anyone there and... yeah... you know how that is.

Never went to prom or any of that crap.

I didn't go to mine, I'd had quite enough ridicule and harassment from the staff there already.

I don't regret it, it would've been awful.

I worn my cap and gown in high school and walked the stage. I knew some people in my graduating class from Osbourn Park. I had no complainants about it at all since I felt proud of myself for my achievements in high school. I'm going to do it for my undergraduate graduation at Mason since I meet and made new friends here and had a blast from the new learning experiences at Mason. My older sister who went to Washington, chose not to walk since her college within the university graduation was enough for her.

You do it either for yourself, or for family.

No reason to bother otherwise.

I didn't bother with graduate school because I was graduating in December (finishing classes) and was not going to drive back to Wyoming just for one day's event and my family would have to come from even farther away to attend.

I think you should go across that stage, Space. If nothing else, because of what that represents - the fact that you have finished something that not many people do. And while those last four years may have been painful for you, you grit your teeth, fought through it, and made it to the other side.

And the fact that you did it with honors is no small feat! You don't do that by just putting in the bare minimum! It must have meant something to you.

If nothing else, you're telling everyone "I'm done with this crap, and I don't have to deal with you anymore."

Do it for yourself.


PS - Never went to any of my formals in High School either.

Reading the above made me /giggle a bit. But there is truth in what he says. Especially the "I'm done with this crap, and I don't have to deal with you anymore." part.

I did not go to mine. I told my parents I would go if they really wanted, but they said they did not mind either way. I do not regret the fact that I did not go.

Ugh, i talked about it with mine and they want me to do it -.- can't understand why...

Never went to prom or my high school graduation. Don't regret it a bit -- those aren't memories I'd have any vested emotional interest in keeping in the first place, why feel dumb and uncomfortable doing them? In other words, I agree Space.

Well, I'm currently on track to not go to mine, so you're in good (best?) company.

There is a grad banquet in 2 weeks, but I have no desire to go to that. Also I am not sure if I am supposed to go, since I am graduating in august, not may like most people. f**k all that crap though. I'm "friends" (and I use the term loosely) with maybe 1 other person who's graduating in my department. The rest I have no clue who they are. It just seems like it would be weird. I could probably get a date, but it would be strange having a first date be so formal and in an awkward environment like that.

Find one of your real friends (or the closest equivalent) and have a night out to celebrate your accomplishment instead.