I've screwed up

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Not done the coursework and revison I should of. I tried but I've been so depressed due to everyone not accepting my invites nor inviting me. Via Uni disablity service tried to arrange 4 a buddy with a volunteer, but nothing materilised before easter break.

I got exam at noon so will either have to skip lunch and be hungry and struggle to concentrate or eat lunch and be tired and find hard to conentrate. After i got 2 days to write essay, and a week to do some coursework, not started. I won't be able to face it not on my own. 1 person once a week just to go to the cinema or out to lunch with would make all the difrence o me. Nothing but human contact seems to shake this, every1 came back last week. Of course all were 2 busy 4 me, had time 4 each other, but I sure don't get invited to tag along. I hate seeing and hearing other people with somebody when I'm alone.

my obsession with computers is now dead and buried. I have no social life despite my best attempts, I no longer have a reason for being. I don't even care anymore, my dad was right, I'm never going to manage on my own.

It is entirely possible that you have screwed up. As a graduate assistant, I've met many, many students who have screwed up far worse than you seem to have done. I've also been the student who screwed up badly, and it had significant consequences for my life. I have two pieces of advice that I hope will be of assistance to you.

1. It is too late in the semester to fix what has gone wrong. If you accept this and do not expect your professor to magically repair the damage, then it would be an excellent idea to speak to him or her. Your professor will appreciate your willingness to admit your own errors, and your desire to use the experience to learn from your mistakes. If nothing else, it gives you the opportunity to walk away with your professor's respect and some suggestions regarding how to do better next time.

2. Some of us are very activity- or project-oriented. The friends I have cultivated in graduate school have come slowly, and materialized from a common interest in watching football together on Sunday afternoons. If you have a special interest, seek out opportunities to pursue that interest. Chances are good that either your school or your community will have others who share your interest. If so, then engaging in your interest will provide you with an opportunity to spend time with people with whom you have something in common. Loneliness is a wretched experience, and I wish you well in finding the friends you seek. There are people in this world willing to share a friendship with you. I promise you that.