how do i control my anger?

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can anyone help me with ways of controlling my anger if you can please tell me it would really help

welcome to WP
if you are angry at a person, then mentally put yourself into that person's shoes, to feel how uncomfortable your anger towards them would feel.

You could walk away, take a deep breathe, and count until your anger is controlled enough where you don't have an outburst or meltdown.

I find that holding ones breath whilst counting to ten to be highly effective.

try punching a pillow dont do this

i used to do that [banging my head into the wall] as a toddler. it made so much thumping noise [not to mention denting my head] that my folks moved my crib away from the wall.
btw, welcome to WP Allison

You just need to train yourself to know when to walk away and cool off.

welcome to WP travis
sometimes one has to know when to RUN away before the angry rash part of the brain gets the better of one [or if the other guy's angry rash brain is even worse].

also try screaming into a pillow

This.

I know this is a kids forum but i figured id try and give advice anyways. Well, Screaming ina pillow or punching a pillowe always worked well for me, but when your in school it s adifferent story, you dont have a pillow. If i remember correctly i would always take a deep breath, and would stare down at my desk for 30 seconds, dont look at anything but the surface of the desk, this calmed me because it was sord of a way to stimluate because i could close myself into a world where theres only the surface of the desk and not some nagging teacher or a kid who picks on me. That was some really good advice when they said not to bang your head against a wall, its not good for your head trust me ive done it.

the first thing to do is if it is your friends then ignore them it works great. if it is your parents then go into your room and think about anything.

My guess that it could be a reaction to bullying. Bullying can even come from parents and other family members. Very often I find that people can provoke me even when they are acting polite. The keyword is acting. People can be polite while simutaneously giving lies and BS. Subconciously I must know I am being lied to and I find myself yelling back at these people. I look like the crazy person when I am yelling at someone who is calm and acting polite. It is a very covert kind of abuse. The people that do that are the worst. What angers me is people who are not capable of saying anything truthful. They either lie intentionally or they are so delusional that they believe the lies they are saying.

shout as loud as you can

My 8 year old daughter is sitting next to me. She says hissing (like a cat) works for her.