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Dakota
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04 Dec 2006, 2:05 pm

I have been having issues lately about school. Some people in my grade who use to be nice to me, now are being mean to me. Some calling me gangster names, some are touching me on purpose, and some won't let me participate in any activities or groups. They think I'm not "Cool enough", "Your gay and stupid" and "Your not are type". These things hurt me and anger me, but nobody seems to notice. Also, people say things I don't understand, which makes me nervous, and want me to do things that I think are wrong, but they think its funny. People also say I say stupid things, which I don't mean to say. I want to tell to my grade I have aspergers, but I'm afraid. What should I do? Cause I don't know what to do!



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04 Dec 2006, 2:43 pm

Well, by the sounds of it, these friends of yours don't sound like true friends. Have they ever stuck up for you? Have they ever helped you out when you've had trouble? These questions are all ones that count towards true friendship, and not just acquaintance. If they want you to do things that they think are funny, yet are wrong, then they aren't the kind of people you'd want to be around with. I don't have any experience on how to introduce your AS to them, but one workaround is to ask your parents (I'm unsure of how old you are) to tell the principal, and then they could contact the parents of each friend, and those parents would hopefully sort things out (but don't forget to remain anonymous, as it can help sometimes).

But for the time being, stay away from these so-called friends. They're probably the type who would grow up smoking odd stuff and winding up in jail.


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04 Dec 2006, 3:07 pm

It sounds to me like you are being bullied. You could try looking at
http://www.bullying.org/public/frameset.cfm
and see if you recognize some of those behaviours there, and suggestions about what to do.

Those are *not* nice people. It's unlikely that anything will make them nicer, which is why I think maybe you should give a little more thought to whether to tell them about AS. It might just give them more stuff to pick on.

Aspies get bullied and picked on and scapegoated a lot. Why? I dunno. Why do people hate? They just do.

Definitely talk to your parents, and show them the www.bullying.org site.

And avoid those other people like the plague.