aspie rages

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when im really stessed i panic and go into a rage when i throw things and scream and nothing can stop it. it feels like the entire world is going to collapse and its all my fualt. now, unfortunatly, im stressed out alot and its really scary because i dont no when it will happen. my doctor said that rages are not related to aspie kids but i dont know... i just wish there was someone who knows how it feels... is there any kids out there who have similer experiences?
how do you cope with it?

When I was really young (4-11 yrs old) I used to rage to the point where I would black out and forget most of what I had done, but I grew out of it as I got older. I just realized that me flipping out was doing me no good at all. So now when I get to the point where I feel like I wanna hurt someone for real and just spaz, I put my ipod on and take a VERY long walk. Hope this helps.

Firstly (if I may) I think most if not all Aspies do "lash out" (not usually at other people) when having a panic or depression attack. I myself have the same feelings, I get over stressed because I'm scared that i'll get over stressed and "slash up" my bedroom.I recently watched a recording of a lecture by Doctor Tony Attwood (who is a fantastic Psychologist!) he said that its completely normal for people with Aspergers to throw,brake and damage things when having "brake downs". Lastly for me just walking around instead of going into my room (where I usually escape to when I'm upset) or I focussing on my "special interests".

(sorry for any bad spelling/grammar I'm half asleep)

I agree with Skye-Day--many of the postings here have discussed what it's like to have a full-fledged "meltdown" (which is more or less what you're describing), and these are from adults.

Mine feel like this: heart racing, breathing faster, thoughts racing too so I can't focus on anything, and a really intense anger that sometimes isn't directed at anything/anyone specific (although sometimes it is).

What works for me I might not recommend since your parents probably wouldn't like it: I lock myself in the bathroom and pretend I'm punching someone. (Yes, I know how that sounds. )

However, there's something to be said for forms of exercise that are like that--if you have a garage maybe you could get a punching bag. It works in the same way as what I described but seems more like a "workout" than a mere expression of violence.

Of course, when I start to feel this way in public I have to hold it inside until I get home. I've had quite a few years to learn how to do that properly (I'm 31).

If they don't like the punching bag idea, then what Skye-Day and Anomalous174 suggested might be better ideas--who could object to your taking a walk and listening to music?

Hope this helps. Just know you're NOT alone in this, and your doctor doesn't know everything.

Take care.

My daughter (she's rages. Her therapist commented about her "rage". She tries very hard to control her meltdowns - you can see her fists clenched at her sides and her body physically shaking from the effort - but after a certain point, she's beyond control. And, her rages are sometimes directed towards people - she usually tries to escape to a safer place, but if she's cornered, things get ugly.

THANK YOU
its nice to know that i not all by my self. thanks for the suggestions. i think when i feel it coming taking a walk listening to music would help alot. my mom says that i should find a "safe" room to hang out in so i wont break anything but they all have windows. i am to learn to try and think of all the good and happy things i can. thank you for all the suggestions! life on this planet gets very stressful.