Shut Down or Melt Down

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When you get angry, or upset, do you more often Shut Down, or Melt Down?
Shut Down, is when you emotionally withdraw, aren't too talkative, and feel numb, and/or depressed.
Melt Down, is when you feel extremely angry and frustrated, to the point of crying and/or screaming.

I'm curious to know which is more common in the aspie community.

Shutdown, but maybe an internal meltdown.

Shutdown seems to be the most popular so far.
Which is actually a little surprising to me.

I usually just shut down. I am even able to change a upcoming meltdown to a shutdown if I hold it for long enough.

Btw. My meltdowns and shutdowns seem to have different triggers.

I get a meltdown when I get emotionally unstable. For example when something unfair happens or I'm being humiliated. I get an urge to yell, cry and hit stuffs then due to feeling so vulnerable and helpless. But I learned to hold it till I get alone or it fades by itself.

Shutdown usually is result of physical exhaustion. It often happens after sensory overload or a meltdown. I get silent and stop receiving the information from senses. I close my eyes, I sit down, curl up or play with my stim toy to get rid of any unpleasant touch sensations, cover my ears and ignore the sounds that come to me and "turn off" my thoughts. It's a state similar to a nap but I have no control over it at all. I am only able to control my ability to speak to a degree and I can say stuff like "Yes", "No", "I don't know", "I'm tired", "Just leave me alone".

As I child I exclusively had meltdowns (almost daily).

From adolescence onwards I exclusively have shutdowns (less frequently but they can last anywhere from hours to months).

As a kid, I had meltdowns. Now, I have shutdowns.

depends on the situation. when i get angry (especially with a person) i tend to shut down, but when i get overwhelmed (like with bureaucratic illogic) i can melt down with the best of 'em.

I do a little bit of both, but I mainly shut down. I mainly shut down when things aren't a certain way, and nobody will fix it, or when I'm overwhelmed or frustrated.

Both equally

Without correct medication, I had meltdowns at least once a week - with SIB.

I shut down most of the time, on rare occasions I get melt downs.

Meltdown. I wish I could control my feelings externally, but I can't. I do feel numb and depressed after a meltdown, though.

I've had LOTs of bad meltdowns with my parents.

I shut down and withdraw into myself, often for several days.

I shut down until I've got enough, and then unpredictably burst in meltdown.