I feel like I'm never going to get another job

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I really feel like I am never going to get another job again. I was fired from a dishwashing job that I held for a few shifts before I was let go and right now I feel as though I am never going to get another. I feel as though potential employers look at me when I go for an interview and think that I would not be suited for their work place environment. I am tired of handing out resumes and cover letters and just want a damn job and feel like I am not worthy of being here. I want to be a contributing member of society and feel as though I am never going to get that chance again.

Do not be too fast to find any job. That they fired you not important it means that you can do better. It takes awhile to find a place that you can fit in. Try not to place too much worth on having/doing a job. work to live not live to work. Give temp work a try it allows you to get paid and try out places to see if there is one you would like to work or in some cases be glad that you do not work there as a perm. employee.

Sure you will get another job. Do you really expect to be a dish washer the rest of your life?

Prehaps you need to develop more adequate job skills before jumping into the job market. Employers may take away your job
at different times in your life, but they cannot take away your education.

Develop your skills to do a better, more rewarding job than simple dish washing...never sell yourself short.

Hey, there's nothing wrong with that, somebody's got to wash them, right?

I've been a dishwasher, pizza driver, worked in a shop, and other unskilled positions. I've just never found anything I think I could stand to do forever. Yes, I have no training, because I've never found anything that interests me enough to train for. I currently work in a barn, after about a year of putting in applications everywhere and never hearing anything. It's hard when you feel like nobody wants you, not even for "crappy" jobs.

I think it's an age thing: When you're 16-22 (or so), they don't expect experience, so they'll hire you. When you're older, I think they look at you like "if you could learn, you'd have made something of your self by now", so they pass for a kid. This is how I felt anyway.

Don't worry, something will come up eventually. If you get in a bind, there's always construction site jobs. Even if you know nothing they will usually hire you to clean up as they work or something.

Good luck hunting.

Jayne, I have been unemployed for several months, so I can empathise. What bugs me the most are the employers who lie to me and say they will call. I much prefer it when people are at least honest and say they do not have any work for me.

As far as obtaining further job skills/ education... well, it depends a lot on what exactly those skills are and what one plans to do with them. I have an advanced degree in a quantitative field, and because of it, people think that I should be working in some sort of high paying office job; in finance or something like that. Reality is I do not do well in a typical office environment. I am a deliberative thinker, who likes to actually get work done and done right, rather than schmooze and play office politics.

Anyway, I don't know if this will help either of us, but I am targeting jobs that involve working "unsociable hours" (i.e., over-night) and/ or are temporary. My hope is that most people want permanent positions which involve working during normal business hours, and thus fewer people will apply for these jobs. Perhaps this strategy will work for you.

Last edited by Logan5 on 27 Jan 2008, 3:15 am, edited 1 time in total.

I don't even get interviews.

You and me sound exactly the same especially with that quote its almost universal isent it. I have never had a job but i never gave up and that is the reason why im still here even through sometimes the afterlife seems tempting but i know the future may hold many bright days so if i diddent stay i would never get a job marry have children and be that contributing member of society.

So my mesage NEVER give up ok?

Yeah I know the feeling of looking for jobs and not getting any results. After getting laid off from a retail job, I went to job fairs, job workshops, and job placement meetings and all I got was the feeling that I wasted my time with all that crap. I was so depressed that I finally gave up and allowed myself to relax for a bit.

My only advice would be to just stop for a little bit and rethink on what to do when looking for a job. Maybe make your resume more appealing to employers or something, just don't rush into it like I did cuz it can make things more stressful. Good luck.

Do you have any special interests/skills/training that you could tap into? Are there lots of work opportunities where you live? Are you in a small town or big city?

There's a job out there for everyone, trust me. Most of us get fired at some point, but that doesn't mean you can't be successful.

I was going to say the same thing. I am most envious of those who manage to turn their special interests into a job - working in a model makers' supply store, testing computer games (seriously: I saw a job advertisement for a "game tester" the other day), drawing cartoons, working as a conjuror... H.P. Lovecraft, one of my literary heroes, made a living rewriting other people's short stories. He was offered a job as a magazine editor but refused because he didn't want to move to Chicago.

Well sometimes you may get some, and even pass one only to find you've given a totally unrealistic impression without meaning too and you are stuck there for a while. Not eager to repeat that in a hurry.

I was just fired from my job at a retail store. The reason given by my manager for why I got fired were very vague at first: "things just aren't working out." I called my dad and he told me that I should go back and ask her for give more specific reasons. The more specific reasons she gave were that I was "just not a people-person" and that I "can't multitask."

The people-person reason is not hard for me to see the basis for. I have been aware for some time of some difficulties that I have in social interaction. I was not sure whether they were major enough that I could be fired for them. Now I know that, unfortunately, they are.

The multitasking reason, conversely, is not something I was fully aware of. At the summer job I had before this job, I did feel nervous and get anxious and feel like I was making mistakes at the register too often. Then I started watching the other employees, who I thought I noticed were making as many or more mistakes than I was. At this job that I just got fired from, I also had some nervousness and anxiety, even a lot less than at the summer job. But I was not very worried that it would be a factor affecting my employment. Now that I have been fired partly for not "multitasking" well, I am thinking that the nervousness and anxiety is a cause. In short, my nervousness and anxiety may be a real issue that has a negative effect on my job performance.

I had apparently done well enough in the interview for the job I just got fired from, which got me hired. I speculate that it was some time after the interview and after a trial period of getting to know the other employees that my managers became aware of my problem(s) . It was about two weeks into my employment that I became aware that my managers were hiring a new employee. This was somewhat surprising because, as far as I had known, there was only one open position and I had filled it. All the time, a particular supervisor kept telling me to loosen up and joke around, to which I responded with smiles and laughs. Perhaps that was not enough.

Getting fired (and knowing why) is a learning experience for me. Before, I had been thinking about getting on Zoloft or some other anti-anxiety drug. (I posted a thread in the general discussion forum here on Zoloft to find out other members's experiences with it.) Now, I have decided to get on some medication as soon as possible, so that I will be prepared for my next job and better prepared stressful college courses. My appointment with the doctor is today, as a matter of fact. I don't know whether the medication will help with the problem I have with not being a people person, but perhaps it will help with my possibly anxiety-related difficulty multitasking.

My parents have told me the last thing I need to do in the situation like the one I am in is to give up. I am going to try to follow their advice. There may be jobs out there that I can get that are not as people-oriented jobs as the job I had, or which I would generally be better at. I have had an rather enjoyable summer job before, and I have gotten good references from that and another previous summer job. Also, hopefully, the medication will make it possible for me to have a successful job in people-oriented jobs as well.

I the original poster can find some useful advice in my above post, to help in a somewhat similar situation.

Careful with those SSRI's, kids.

What does thet mean? SSRI's Please tell me

Selective serotonin re-uptake inhibitors. New wave antidepressants like Zoloft et al.

They do help some people, but they mess others up, and there's really no way to tell which you'll be until you try them.

Up until this last december and january, I generally had good luck with jobs. One of my main tricks was on my availability, I always put 24\7. Employers like it when you tell them you'll be their b***h .