Getting fired at work for something I posted on facebook

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Good luck in terms of your job. But in terms of facebook, you should probably regulate it very carefully. You have all sorts of privacy options available. You might want to go through your friend list and only keep the friends you know that are trustworthy, unfriend everyone else. For pretty much everything that is on your profile, you can customize the privacy settings to control who has access to what.

That was stupid to fire you for that reason. There was nothing offensive about it. I agree with cathylnn, it is an excuse to get rid of you. Because of our autism, it makes us vulnerable to getting fired so they will find an excuse to get rid of you.

I understand about bosses finding an excuse to get rid of you. When I started teaching high school (which I do not recommend for aspies; I'm looking for something else), I was at an inner city school with a micromanaging principal. I was by no means the only teacher that had a problem with her, but as an aspie I was more vulnerable to her manipulative and bullying ways, and she tended to be very condescending and patronizing, especially after I disclosed about Asperger's. I was well liked by my students because I was kind to them, but this was contrary to expectations and kept me from having good control of my classes (still a problem for me.) I was expected to be mean and that's just not me. I didn't fit in, and the principal knew how to make life miserable for people she wanted to get rid of.

I wanted to quit soooo badly, but I couldn't afford to. I was stuck in this situation. After my first year, I convinced the principal that I could do better the next year since I would be able to start off right (I had started my first year three weeks after school started). That got me in for the second year, and everything was fine until she started micromanaging again something awful. She would always walk in unannounced and criticize me in front of the students (she did that to other teachers too), and that tended to undermine respect for me. She always questioned my judgement; for example if I let a student out to use the bathroom, she'd get on my case and say the students were taking advantage of me.

At the end of the second year, she tried to convince me that I needed to resign for "health" reasons (I was having to go home sick a lot from the stress). Out of aspie naivete I thought about following her suggestions, but others told me not to give in so easily. When I resisted, she told me that if I came back the next year she would put me on "intensive assistance" which was a step toward firing me. A fellow teacher who hated the principal told me I should bring the union into it, so I did, as I could not afford to lose the income and had no immediate viable options for employment. As it turned out, she really had no recourse since my evaluations were good. She had been lying and bluffing me, trying to bully me into quitting so she wouldn't have to take responsibility for firing me. Once the union got involved and spoke to HR, I was assured that my job was safe. I came back for a third year, and the principal didn't bother me nearly as much as she had before.

I was still worried about whether I could stand a fourth year working for her, since I still was not in a position to leave teaching. As it turned out, at the end of my third year the state took over the school, displacing all of us. I was very fortunate in that the district gave priority to teachers displaced by the state takeover, and an opening came up for my subject in the district's best school. Now I have a kind principal who has the "hands off" leadership style that I like. Except for the scheduled evaluations they're required to do, administrators don't come into my room unless I call for them. This takes a lot of the stress out of it, though my poor social skills still make classroom management difficult in spite of having better students. But at least I can endure a little bit longer now until I find a way out of the teaching profession.

You're probably wondering what happened to the principal at my old school. I heard that she applied for two available positions in the district but didn't get either of them, so she ended up retiring. I've heard she's curriculum director or some such thing at a private school now, but at least my district no longer has to deal with her.

So yes, there are bosses that will look for an excuse to get rid of you. You can take advantage of help that may be available (teacher's unions have gotten a bad rap lately, but my union was a lifesaver), but they may make your life miserable. Take it from me that you're much better off finding a boss that gives you your space and doesn't micromanage. I hope you succeed in finding something that suits you.

If the hospital you work for has an ombudsman or ombuds office, that might be a good place to go. I don't have much experience with this, but my understanding is that they typically don't take any action on complaints but could give you perspective on the situation.

I was just about to type this almost word for word. Yes, it's just an excuse to try to get rid of you: same thing happened to me in retail where I was singled out for every tiny infraction (like operating a forklift 1km over the speed limit for 2-3 seconds while others drove triple the speed limit regularly) and tiny infractions were blown out of proportion with lawyer-like reasoning. Seemingly out of the blue I suddenly couldn't do anything right. I had an impeccable work history and had been there 7 years so they couldn't fire me but made me life a living hell and by no means was I the first or last to get that treatment. I didn't clue in that I was being framed until I was confronted with a invoice with my employee number indicating I sold a $3000 heating unit (that I know absolutely nothing about and would NEVER sell period) for $200 and it was obvious someone high up was setting me up. That, and my employee account had VERY heavy restrictions put on it the week before that and I later found out nobody else had them. I foolishly went back two years later looking to get rehired when I was unemployed and they were desperate for help and my boss said "we can possibly hire you but it will be minimum wage and the worst hours" so he obviously didn't want me.

My last supervisor in retail summed it up best "I don't care if you work hard or not just as long as it looks like you are working (to the bigwigs)." As a textbook Aspie who prides themselves on tangible results, this was almost impossible to deal with.

You need to go to HR and disclose that you have AS or autism or however you identify. It sounds to me like you have been identified as someone who doesn't fit in and they're looking for a way to get rid of you.

If you disclose to HR you'll have ADA protection and whether or not you choose to stay there, they won't be able to pick on you for social stuff. I used to work in management and trust me, this whole situation is suspicious.

I deleted facebooks within 2 weeks of being there and seeing my colleagues responses and whatever was happening around there
freaked me out
I love adding updates on FB and i am sure if i had been there i would have been kicked out my job too by now.

I dont know what advice to give you but maybe you can use a fake profile on FB without adding your real identity
And probably some patient from your hospital complained about you....

This is insane to me. I see nothing wrong with what you posted for one.....and its my personal and largely meaningless opinion (because the majority of the world is likely to continue disagreeing with me on this) that what is on facebook should not be the concern of your employer. I can't imagine someone being motivated to call your boss?? So I'm thinking either someone is intentionally trying to make problems for you or your boss made it up as an excuse......?.... but at the same time, most of the US is 'at will employment' so they don't even have to giv a reason to fire someone. At least not in NY. So I'm wondering if this is the former...? Because if you actually upset one of friends wouldn't they contact you to talk about it? Idk. Can you imagine someone being so mean though? : /

I think your boss is lying.

Mind=blown! Why did I overlook this straight angle! Yes - it really could be as simple as this! AND cause the drama of you now possibly mistrusting all your FB friends at the same time... that'd be a pretty sick, twisted boss to even take this road!

I agree with everyone who has said that the situation seems fishy and that it seems unreal that anyone could be fired over something so benign; I also agree with ai ling that you could start by setting your privacy standards more tightly and getting rid of some of your sort-of friends. 'Friends' on facebook doesn't mean that they're actually friends.

Uhhggg I am paranoid about having a facebook account...no thank-you

I have deleted my facebook account many times...even when I only had my family and maybe two online friends added....to much paranoia.

This situation your in really makes me sad, that is the problem with ignorance and people acting on their silly emotions.

Wow, you did nothing wrong at ALL, and your boss is a friggin doormat to listen to an insaine person like that....

It is like the type of weirdo who calls child services because I say I am hungry for example..... I ALLLWAYS say I am starving, even though I eat like 5-6 super healthy meals a day...

Some super wierdo, jelouse freak insecure person type, hears me say this and jumps all over it as a chance to call child services...

I think you boss and others who let cater to these types in any way shape or form are completley incompetent...

Lets attack the innocent to appease insecure tattletale types! Yay! Friggin jerks!

Insteaf of cyber bullying, it is like institute or say, political bullying, and anyone who buys into it, like your boss, is a coward!

It is either a weak or an inexperienced/unknowledgable boss that would fire a productive employee over something that one customer said. I had a patient complain to my boss once because I put gloves on before accepting a body fluid sample from her.

While this isn't really the issue, instead of 'defriending' all your quasi friends on facebook you could do what I do and never publish who you work for on your facebook. It doesn't really solve the issue here though, and I agree something's off about it and it could be that your boss is lying, although that seems almost as bizarre as someone calling up the company to complain about the status.

I mean really, how would this even go..
Hello reception?
Um I need to complain about one of your staff.
What seems to be the problem?
It's their facebook status!
One moment I'll put you through to the boss?!%$!

I have no idea why anyone would be offended by that. You should ask your boss exactly what was wrong with it.