Need advice about sensitivity

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I have a question: when should a sensitive person suck it up and pretend everything's okay? Let me explain first.

So I'm quitting my 3rd job this year. It's been a really interesting turn of events, except they haven't come out in my favor. For my first job, I was working at a little bookstore, which was perfect. I only left because I had wanted to start a second job in hopes of working full-time; the combined hours were sometimes more than 10 hours per day, for 4 days in a row, which was too much for me. As soon as I quit back at the bookstore, the hours for my second job were throttled back significantly, so I quit there too. I worked at each place for roughly 3-4 months, so I don't feel too bad.

However, this 3rd job I've only been at for a month. The main problem is that I'm unable to get back home after a certain hour (I take public transit since I can't afford a car). A secondary problem is I'm starting to realize I'm not invincible, and have a slightly hard time standing for 7-9 hours a day. The managers are very disrespectful and condescending. We only get paid $7.75 an hour. All of those are good reasons to leave, in my opinion (but I'm young and stupid).

So the sensitivity question comes in here: when I stand for 8 hours and then have to go to bed late, the fatigue kills me. However, most jobs I can find require me to do both things. What should I do? At what point do you have to go far enough out of your comfort zone in order to get paid? I'm also worried about finding another job.

Depending on what your areas of interest are, you may want to check out security guard at a gated community, security guard who monitors cameras, library aid (specifically look for backroom positions with ordering, book repair, and such), toll booth operator, parking garage attendant, valet, vending machine attendant, house sitter, pet sitter, appliance repair, private investigator, court stenographer, and such.

I have the utmost sympathy. Unfortunately, in those types of jobs, you either do what they expect or you'll be replaced in two seconds by someone who is willing to. That was the most dehumanizing thing about working restaurant and retail. They know that if you're working in a job for that amount, you can't afford a lawyer.
You want accommodations? We'll fire you because 'a customer complained' or something.
I just kept my head down and did things as well as I could, but, I was working specifically to put myself through college, so I knew it wasn't permanent. If I didn't have an end date in sight, I may have had a harder time accepting the poor working conditions.

I like Betwixt's suggestions. There are smaller companies out there which won't be as visible as the typical types of jobs I had, but, if you do find the time to look around for something like that, it could be good.

Why do you think I advise people to stay away from restaurants and retail? LOL

I always tell cashiers---go to college, you don't need this crap!

Push through it for a month or two and try really hard to find another job in that time before you quit. It's easier to find a job when you already have one. Don't stay there too long just taking crap all the time either, though. It's damaging, and it's hard to undo it all after a while.