Tried To Quit My Job Today

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I feel like I have been expressing my discomfort with my work load and the stress I am under clearly for awhile, but today I was told that I don't communicate and it was inappropriate for me to surprise them with the "nuclear option" of giving notice.

They agreed to reduce my workload and insulate me from some of the chaos I have been dealing with and we will see how it goes.

It's just frustrating that I feel like I have been communicating well and I am apparently completely failing at it.

Hi, Sorry you have been pushed into a corner like this.

Whilst I obviously don't know your employers or you, I'm pretty sure they will have understood you perfectly but chose to ignore it! Employers are getting more and more cut-throat and the welfare of their employers is secondary to profit or hitting targets. They have probably chosen to be selectively deaf when you have spoken about your concerns as they have tried to wring as much out of you before having to do anything about it.

The 'nuclear option' bit sounds like a management that is trying to re-write the situation to put the 'blame' on you and protect themselves. They will almost always stick together and you be made out to be the difficult or unreasonable one.

The positive is that you have achieved some changes which should hopefully help you cope with the situation a bit better and get back to being yourself and doing your best work again. I hope this is the case and it works out well for you. Take care of yourself.

Communication issue, clearly. They cannot read your mind. As ASD you probably don't show it on your face or body either, and usually people tend to be offended that you cannot share feelings with them as that is most of what they do when they talk.

Try asking yourself "if this was a tv show, how would my character talk in this situation?"

Good advice. I think I have been communicating in terms of office structure and volume, and not in a personal sense as much. It's a bit frustrating that in communicating something clearly I feel like I have to take an unnatural and circuitous route.

What sort of job do you do?

I wish I could offer suitable advice. Maybe the best thing to do is to keep this job until you get another job.

NEVER quit! You won't get unemployment.

I'm glad you didn't quit.

I'm sorry you're going through this. The b***h is: companies don't care about employees; they care about "results."

I tend to put myself in other people's situations when in social contexts. Good social coping technique, I think.

Ha, I've been there. I think the ASD mind makes us want to have to explain everything logically. It doesn't work all the time, we have feelings too and telling people "this thing, If I didn't have this thing in my life I would feel better" or "I would work all weekend just to have time alone when I work" is perfectly reasonable.
If you get stuck you can always ask for help and just explain the situation. Clarity is something that everyone struggles with and getting to know yourself and what you need to fight for is a trial and error process.
Keep up the good fight.

I'm not certain if that is a good result for you or not. I think it is somewhat like telling an employer that you are taking another job and them trying to convince you to stay with a higher compensation package. In those situations it can result in you coming into the line of fire so to speak.

In a job you are best keeping a record of your communication, Email is good for this. Also putting something in a written statement can allow clarity for all involved. Using email for that written statement puts an audit trail in place.

I hope your experience improves at your job and that is what matters most. As far as an employer saying you surprised them with a "nuclear option" that is a bad joke. You live in Minnesota, an "AT WILL" employment state, you are free to go when you like, they are free to fire you when they want as long as it is not discrimination. As you live in an AT WILL state there is no requirement to give notice, of termination of the contract by either side. If you feel that your job might be in jeopardy after this experience I would strongly suggest looking for other work.

I hear ya....

A Couple of weeks ago, I was telling my a friend of mine that I felt like resigning from my position. Monday this week, the same company chose to terminate my employment. They gave me the "nuclear option" and had me out of there as quickly as possible. Reduced my workload and such. According to them, didn't help. Realized that it wasn't "a good fit" mutually, so I moved on.

Maybe I'm just not properly trained in these sorts of laws, but if OP signed something stating some sort of loyalty clause (like having to give 2 weeks notice) would OP have to? I'm not sure I've ever had that, but does that sort of thing exist? I know with my last job, I did not give two weeks notice, because it was entry level airlines, and they said I couldn't be rehired. NOW my advisor at the job won't give me reference, claiming the company won't let him. I think it's just him giving me a weak excuse tho, because two other advisors at his same level said they would refer me. I worked for the company, and they never told me anything like that at termination. But I also never signed anything stating a "nuclear option." That sounds MADE UP. I was even told they can fire me "at will" and I can also be allowed the same rights. I was made to sign something to THAT effect.

So yes, know your rights. But also, I agree with another poster -- don't quit until you've got a contingency plan. You won't want to be without a back up. Of course, sometimes even working at a temp job is better than being miserable.

Do you have anyone to help you out? Family? Friends? Someone who can give you advice? I sometimes still go to my mom to advice, tho I'm an adult. It isn't the best feeling in the world, but I don't have a choice with the way I'm unable to read people. Sometimes those closest to you can tell you what you are and aren't doing "right," according to NT rules. And let's face it, we live in an NT world. For now.

I don't have anyone to turn to for help if I lost my job: family or friends.

I spoke to my employer again. They value me as an employee, made some minor accommodations, and are planning to hire more people to handle the ever-increasing workload. I don't feel like I'm in danger of being fired.

I just hate that people realize I am smart and capable and then start dumping all kinds of work on me. I had to explain to my boss that being smart doesn't mean I can handle large amounts of stress well. Apparently they felt it was a self-esteem thing and not a stress issue, and so kept telling me they thought I could handle it. Because I suck at communication.

Luckily, I am not the only employee that is struggling at the moment, or who has had to talk to them about stress levels and workload.