Tired of fighting

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Hello all,
New here and glad to have found this place. Seems about 20 years ago they put a name to this thoght proscess (AS) I’ve been dealing with for 50 years. Thanks for letting me vent and reading I’m not alone.

Anyway, seems everytime I step into the working world the same old pattern repeats. Land the new job, all is good for 6-12mos while I learn the system. All the reviews are great, “smart, hard working, creative, driven, passionate”
But things start turning sour and the you’re weird, creepy, unsociable stuff starts. Instead of trying to adapt and fit in, because we all know how well that works out! I end up saying screw it, I can start over.
Honestly, the only time I’ve been happy was when I was self employed.

Is anyone else tired of fighting? How do you cope and live, gotta have money.

Tired of fighting? Certainly!

How do I cope at work? By earning an MSEE. The resultant skills that are in great demand.

Since you are new here, welcome to Wrong Planet.

How do I cope at work? By developing the skills to perform the job and by being one of the best producers. Generally if you are good at your job, management will cut you some slack. I do not stress the social aspects of the job and learn only the social skills necessary to perform. I am an out-of-box thinker and find that skill rather useful. I am also a non-conformist. That means that I do not conform to society but rather expect society to conform to me.

Don't underrate your skills “smart, hard working, creative, driven, passionate”.

If you are happy being self employed, then aim for that as a goal.

I haven't even begun to fight and I'm already tired.

I wish employers would stop the chit-chat interviews. They'd be better off doing interviews that are basically job tests. The most social pepole are the ones who'd usually spend most of the time chit-chatting around the water cooler. And some pepole can sweet talk there way into anything.

At least this way, they'd have an easier time finding out if the person's suited to the job. I probably would have never gotten my Culvers job had they done this. Wouldn't have wasted my whole summer in a job I hated. And it fixes nearly everything. Except in a job that social skills are required.

I completely understand. I agree with a lot of what some other have said. I try to be the best that I can at my job. I am usually the go-to person and central hub of information. That's because I am constantly learning and more importantly sharing the information I obtain. Granted, I don't often get asked out to the social outings that people have, but that doesn't bother me, because I am there to do a job. I know I am the "weird one" and am ok with that. But I also get asked by the owner of a multi-billion dollar company to step in to talk about one subject or another (difficult task, sometimes, due to the overwhelming audience and over-inputs). I may get promoted slower than others as well.

At the end of the day, be useful, be kind, be confident but not cocky. I learned that hard way that even though I process things much faster than most and I am often seen as the "smart one" that I don't let it go to my head and have to treat others with great respect (and honestly, tolerance). Also, be vulnerable and talk to your boss, I found often times they will be understanding and help put things in place to make things easier. It is working so far, 17 years at the same company do something that excites me is worth all of the frustrating uphill battles.

My 2 cents, your mileage may vary.

Today i feel like i've been played the fool, the past few weeks have had their ups and downs but today it just seemed so clear that I was not fully accepted into the job even though i had signed all necessary paperwork. I always thought of myself as an asset, [some] people like that I do/did a good job and now that I left abruptly because I was so frustrated and angry at my manager for reasons i won't explain, i face disciplinary action for having an unauthorised absence possibly even the sack, despite my hard-working the past few weeks.

I would put it down to sensory overload or meltdown but i did not disclose anything on my forms, so anything I could pin my meltdown on is non-existent. I feel like i have been bottling it up ever since i started, so the wave of depression would just hit me at the worst possible time.