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25 Feb 2012, 6:10 pm

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One thing in particular bothers me in interviews though. In one interview I was talking and suddenly cut short to be asked "Do you really want a job? You're sitting...well like us!" I have a (unintentional) tendency to mimic body language in situations I find ambiguous.


This type of body language is called mirroring, and is something that was taught as an exercise in several of the back-to-work focused courses I have attended. I was apparently very good at the exercise but without being aware I was doing it.
On the course we were told that "mirroring" is a good thing to do, it makes people feel comfortable. People who know each other well will do it unconsciously (i.e. a married couple, or a mother and daughter). However, this article I found from the Daily Mail (apologies for the tory rag link!) http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/ ... etent.html has a different opinion.

It could also be that the interviewer said "Do you REALLY want a job? You're sitting...well like us!" in a humorous way, since mirroring is such a known fact, and he tried to get you to stop doing it, and that he had gotten the point. You really want the job.

But I guess; "You really want this job, dont you? Since you're sitting like us." would be a better way to phrase a joke like that, but people phrase things in so many weird ways its hard to know.

I dont know, I have to recite conversations in my head 15 times after I've walked away from a social situation before I can make sense of it sometimes, dont listen to me. :D



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11 Sep 2014, 3:48 pm

ARTOFMANLINESS.COM: "10 Questions to Ask in a Job Interview" (September 10, 2014)
http://www.artofmanliness.com/2014/09/1 ... -interview

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When it comes to job interviews, we often see it as a one-way street, with the interviewer holding all the cards. In reality, though, it?s a two-way interaction. You are also interviewing them to see if their company is the right fit for you. Sure, sometimes desperation means you don?t have that luxury, but hopefully at some point you?ll have options and you?ll get to choose the company that?s best for you. A large part of determining that is the questions you ask at the end of the interview....


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01 Nov 2016, 7:38 pm

I'm sorry but forcing eye contact or even forcing myself to look at the general region of someones face is simply too much. Its even more ridiculous to expect some of us to force face to face contact and listen to what the other person is saying at the same time.



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11 Apr 2018, 1:14 pm

Thank you. Just have an interview today at 3 and these are the tips I need at the moment. :D



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14 Apr 2018, 2:24 pm

Those aren't bad tips, but my problem is I barely have a job history only 1 job in the past 5 years, and that only lasted about 3 months. So that kind of sets me back no matter what interview skills I might develop.

If you're 20 only 1 job in that amount of time isn't such a big deal but I am 28, making me almost 30 so yeah.


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14 Apr 2018, 8:48 pm

Richman71 wrote:
...Sometimes I would focus on the bridge of the nose so as not to intensely stare into the interviewer’s eyes.
...Try not to go on for too long as people with Asperger’s can and do sometimes.
...When talking say just enough then stop
...Disclosing or telling the interviewer about your Asperger’s Syndrome


Some of this advice is hilarious, all of it is spot on. Thank you!! !



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17 May 2018, 4:02 pm

Hi! Welcome to WP. Great advice!
I think I do great with interviews because I have the ability to act neurotypical for short periods of time. I can force the eye contact etc. which is key for interviews.
I actually just got hired on the spot I believe it was last week and I think it was because of this one thing which I'd like to add to your list.
I read online that towards the end of your interview you're typically asked if you have any questions and that you should always take this opportunity to ask something because it makes you seem more prepared. I did and after they got done answering they said "you know, I have more interviews to do but.. I'm not gonna mess around. We're just going to hire you." So that's just my little tip.


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