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thank you so much for clarifying this. what you said calmed me down. i spent the day feeling bad because of the comments made on this thread. i just want everyone to know that i felt like i was being attacked even though you were giving me suggestions. i just hate when people make me feel bad.

Take it easy, soul, these folks are just trying to help.

We don't know your circumstances and that makes it hard for us to help you.

Can you go into some more detail on what's going on in your life? You say you're attending college but you have no car or public transportation. How are you getting to college?

What are you studying there, and what would you like to do after you graduate?

Getting a job after college can be extremely difficult without prior experience in an internship or co-op. Practicing getting a simple library assistant job (or whatever) right now can help you get an internship or co-op later.

In particular, your college should have resources to help you develop your skills at applying for and interviewing for jobs. Talk to them and see what they can do for you; preparing you to enter the workforce is pretty much exactly what you're paying them to do.

I'm concerned specifically that your applications may have been causing the refusals to hire you. Misspellings or poor grammar or other characteristics of some applications can lead them to be discarded without serious consideration. It would be nice to see a sample application of yours. Just grab an application from somewhere, fill it out (leaving address and name blank, and any other personal info), then, rather than returning it to the place you got it from, instead post it somewhere for us to review, or have someone you trust at the college review it for you and help you do better at it.

As for your sister and you, that's tough. It's *completely* understandable to not want to give up money, and even to not want to work. Hell, nobody really truly wants to work all the time, even in jobs they love. That's why it's called work. BUT, working is how people give value to others so that they can then receive value themselves. It's expected and overall a positive thing. If you intend to support yourself in life, and find time and resources to enjoy things you like, then you're going to have to create value for others from time to time.

Sharing with your sister is a family consideration, which may depend on who's paying for your college expenses, or for your room and board, or whatever. If someone's paying $5,000 a year for you to go to school, it doesn't seem unreasonable for them to ask for $1,000 back from you each year from your work, provided that it doesn't interfere with your schoolwork. Not unreasonable at all. There are other situations which are also perfectly reasonable. Just because you have to give something up doesn't mean that you're being treated unfairly; remember all the wonderful and positive things you've received over the years, and continue to receive now.

Again, we don't know your real circumstances and we only want to help.

As VA pointed out, even by internet standards this particular forum is unusually blunt, so try not to get too worked up about it.

Exactly. No malice was intended. Sometimes when we're given advice we don't like it's hard not to take personally.