Coping with coworkers

Post Reply New Topic

In my ASD support group there is one person who is adamant a person not tell, there is another who is very enthusiastic that a person tell everyone. Both have evidence to support their claim, so there must be a few factors at play including work and community subcultures.

Ironically, years ago a co-worker shared with four of us (his allies) that he thought he had Asperger's. We took it in stride; it made sense. I doubt he told his detractors. (I did not know at the time that I also have ASD.)

I'm sorry for the negative experiences RadioDog and others shared and am scared of that for myself. It will be nice when I have less skin in the game and can more openly be myself.

Disclosure of autism could be good, bad, both or neither

It depends on which autistic and which co-workers

Have the same problem right now

I usually lean toward no for disclosing. Like someone else said, it can be a slippery slope toward the work people thinking you have a intellectual defect.

Do you LIKE your co-workers? If these are people who have something interesting about them and you enjoy some part of their company, the relationships may be worth working on. But if you are just trying to get along to make the day pleasant, the answer may be it interact with them less.

Someone else said something about people making lame comments, such as “you need a vacation” or “sounds like a case of the Mondays...”. I also find that irritating. The answer there is to reply with some other inane saying or not funny joke, or to reply with “okay” or “sure” or “yup”. People who say things like that are not actually communicating. They think they are supposed to say something, so they let out a script.

Topic: To Correct "Gender" Error on Profile

At the bottom of every page are a number of hypertext links; one of which is "Contact".
Use this "Contact" link to request profile to show the correct/preferred gender.
While I do not know this is possible, it would seem unlikely that one cannot change their preferred gender identification.

Do NOT tell an employer there is anything wrong with you ever. It will majorly backfire and you could lose your job.

These bastards will use anything against you to get rid of you and get their friends in.

They will refer you to a company therapist or whatever and call it help but actually what they are doing is trying to find how they can dismiss you from work.

Just go there, get paid, go home. Don't bother with the office politics it's not worth it. Don't tell anyone anything too personal about you either, if people can use it against you they totally will.