The stress is the killer, isn't it?

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That or the exhaustion.

I believe that my AS has caused me to have extremely high blood pressure due to anxiety which has led to me to have congestive heart failure, 80% kidney function, and an enlareged heart because of all the problems I have had to deal with by being around other employees who usually lighten up their day by tormenting me. Ever since I have been laid off since October 2009 my blood pressure has shown a dramatic turn around with me reducing my meds due to me staying away from @ssholes.

Theres this guy I work with, really talented technically, but he has lots of anxiety problems and problems with co-workers (and his ex wife and his daughter) mostly that he perceives and is generally unhappy. But the problems with the co-workers from my perspective are to do with perception and misinterpretation. I feel bad for him, I'm sure he's on the spectrum, he just doesn't seem to 'read' situations and people. And of course our manager is a bit of an Alpha male and gets annoyed at him. Sigh.
Why is it always the people who are insensitive and bullies who end up as managers? I reckon I'd be a good manager, I just have completely no interest in doing it.

Nostromo, it is difficult to make the cold decisions required as a manager when you care a lot about those working for you. Been there, done that. My employees always told me I was an amazing manager, but the same traits that made them love me also nicked my ratings in the eyes of my bosses. Doing what you think is right when the financial reward is for something different can be hard.

Anyway ... I've accepted the job with one of the firms I had been consulting with. Starting February 1st I'll be working full time. My husband can decide to quit if he wants, but now that I've got a job he seems to be learning to set limits within his and may actually force it back into a reasonable box. So, we'll both be working for a while, and we may need that extra income as my MIL may need to move into assisted living. I feel bad for the kids, however, because this is going to be a big adjustment. We've told them we expect the two full bore jobs to be temporary, just a few months, but with the new situation with my MIL that may not be how it ends up. My husband actually told me I was free to turn the offer down, but I've seen the psychological effect the back up has on him, and he needs that. So, life gets crazier and busier for me and the kids. Just the way it has to be.