17 Sep 2012, 5:57 pm
18 Sep 2012, 7:36 am
Magnus: I am married with a Brazilian and we have a patchwork family: She brought her 17 years-old son in, and we have a two years old daughter.
I always thought that in Brazil there are no Aspies, and if so, they don't suffer because you are all so open in sense of contacts and you don't care about if someone is acting a bit strange. Until my wife showed me a video in youtube where a Brazilian man talks about his Asperger suffering.
Also I thought one day to be better working in Brazil. Now I know I would suffer the same as everywhere in the world! That's sad. When I am in another country, they only like me in the first days because my difference is primarily seen as a cultural difference. But the longer I stay there, the more difficult it would be for me to be accepted.
Please tell me if you have more issues with women or with men. I am sure that at least it's very easy to find a girl-friend over there isn't it? Here in Germany are missing more than 1 million women at the age of 20 - 45 due to the fact that 100 female births are related to 106 male births. Under these circumstances it was rarely possible for me to get sexual experience when I was younger. But my wife is telling me, in Brazil every man gets a woman, even he is poor, invalid, with one arm or leg or simply old. Is that true? Therefore she doesn't allow me to travel with her. 
18 Sep 2012, 6:06 pm
I second that.
Not every man, but I am willing to bet that more than 90% of Brazilian men had at least one partner before they were 17.
Of course, I am among the 10% who stay single, even though I am actually quite attractive. There is something very wrong with me. Although to be fair, it is nearly impossible for me to show that I am interested in somebody. To this day, I only fell in love once (around March, to be more precise) and, unless you count a Facebook PM, I never gave her any evidence that I liked her. But I am going to ask her out next week. Even if it does not work, I think she should know that I like her.
Nevertheless, I think I have issues with both men and women. I am distant, therefore, other people keep their distance from me, regardless of their gender. When they befriend me, they usually like me, but I really do not know how to keep friendships after school is over/I have changed jobs/anything that disrupts our routine meetings.
18 Sep 2012, 6:41 pm
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18 Sep 2012, 6:47 pm
I always thought that in Brazil there are no Aspies, and if so, they don't suffer because you are all so open in sense of contacts and you don't care about if someone is acting a bit strange. Until my wife showed me a video in youtube where a Brazilian man talks about his Asperger suffering.
Also I thought one day to be better working in Brazil. Now I know I would suffer the same as everywhere in the world! That's sad. When I am in another country, they only like me in the first days because my difference is primarily seen as a cultural difference. But the longer I stay there, the more difficult it would be for me to be accepted.
Please tell me if you have more issues with women or with men. I am sure that at least it's very easy to find a girl-friend over there isn't it? Here in Germany are missing more than 1 million women at the age of 20 - 45 due to the fact that 100 female births are related to 106 male births. Under these circumstances it was rarely possible for me to get sexual experience when I was younger. But my wife is telling me, in Brazil every man gets a woman, even he is poor, invalid, with one arm or leg or simply old. Is that true? Therefore she doesn't allow me to travel with her.
I'm half Brazilian, and also an Aspie.
In my experience, Brazilians and Latinos in general, seem to deal with the weirdness better than anglos have, at least in my experience. They are more accepting of it - but even they know there is something different, and it does affect the way they will treat you.
The main difference is this - if you are a foreinger, and you are enthusiastic in regards to attempting to learn their culture, they will explain it in every small detail to you (something that would not have happened growing up in your own culture). You have the opportunity to learn the cultural rulebook exactly down to the detail (as long as you ask lots of questions), and if you have that enthusiasm, they are much more likely to put a majority of your differences down to cultural differences because they know you are really trying.
They will still know that you are different, but they will be very accepting of you as long as you are making an honest attempt.
Some will still avoid you because of it. But overall the experience you have there will depend on how much effort you put in.
They will start to notice the more you spend time there that you are different, but as long as you keep making an effort to learn, they will continue to help you as much as they can.
