Blaming parents for not having a job

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The original poster helped me a great deal with their comments. I have had some anger towards my mom lately as well around not being able to find work although in my case I still am trying hard to find employment and have some more specific complaints. My mom encouraged me when I was an undergrad to stay on my SSDI because I needed the income to help me pay bills. I wanted to work a retail job and gain job experience but I wasn't really ready yet while going to school. If I had done so then I feel like now I'd be having an easier time finding employment if I had been successful however more than likely I would have gotten fired then not had the money to stay in college and would have been worse off. I don't even necessarily believe this issue is caused by Asperger's as a historian I can tell you in tough economic times people always look for a scapegoat to blame their problems on precisely because it's no one person's fault. Having Asperger's I can see though how for some of us that's just not an acceptable answer because we are convinced we can always figure the system out and find out what's going on at least I am. Maybe this is one of those times as with religion when we can't have a sure answer. My advice would be focus less on his anger towards his mom because that's probably not changeable right now and focus on convincing him that regardless of who's fault it is that he can't find work the quickest way for him to do so is to begin looking. Also if he feels he is smarter than most people remind him if this is true than he will be able to find work more quickly than somebody else could.

You make no sense. You believe in a system that has certain cultural values to it that make no sense in any kind of objective reality. Your beliefs are filled with inconsistencies and contradictions. All you do is parrot the same lines, the same metaphors, the same nonsensical statements that I've heard many times. You also through your own words support those who commit fraud and misrepresentation. You talk about personal responsibility when you support criminals and charlatans. What does this make you? You preach personal responsibility but do you know what my good sir. This is probably either going to get this thread locked or may get me banned or both. If the mods see fit to punish me then I will accept it with grace.

Through our thread exchanges I've gotten everything I've needed to know about you. Personally, I think you are a fraud and a charlatan. I think you know how to put on an act of appearing respectable and responsible. It's all fake and all a dog and pony show and I see right through your nonsense. You are like the pharisees. You put on a lot of pomp but that is all it is. The truth is you have an sense of entitlement and you know how to disguise it very well. You're game is up and your nonsense will not work with me. I see right through your BS, your deceptions and your lies.

I am taking responsibility for my life. I am doing things to improve myself but not in the conventional sense. This is another lie you just stated. The truth is I've been f*****g with you the whole time. The truth is those with your beliefs do not follow what you say. I will do as you say but not as you do. I will and am taking responsibility but I will not be a hypocrite like you and say and promote themselves as being responsible when they're actually not. The truth is you and those like you put down those who truthfully need help. You treat them like dog s**t and see yourself as superior to them. If this isn't what a narcisstic person who has no empathy with a high sense of entitlement than I don't know what is. You support criminals of the same caliber and you're scum like them.

Cubedemon I think you're just projecting a whole lot of unrelated issues you have with society onto other people here, not looking at ideas themselves and in isolation, but bringing in a massive load of perceived subtext, that just isn't there, simply because it bears a vague resemblance to (useless) things you've been told when in difficulty.

It is rather simple: in this world, no matter what species or what point in history, adults work to provide for themselves. It's just part of the physical reality of existance. Assistance such as that provided by society for the disabled, is a human notion that was created by society - it does not deviate from the physical reality in demanding adults support themselves, but it does in granting exemptions from this. That is a product of human and social ideals, not the physical reality.

Wow- a lot of bellyaching on this thread....Most people I know got a mixed bag of information from their parents and schools.

In some areas of work, IT IS ALL ABOUT looks and personality- sales for example. In other areas, the school you go to DOES MATTER- in business they want the "blue chippers" I think my brother calls them- the kids with high GPAs from the "best " schools....
In engineering, they might look at what school you went to (in the mid west they are super impressed by my school, everywhere else- not so much) and your GPA but its often (not always) a very results driven field.

Bottom line, with the advent of the internet STOP WHINING and learn yourselves a thing or two b4 you go thigh high into college debt.

My parents were very imperfect, but I thank them for all the good stuff they did. I just texted my mom a thanks at 2 in the morning the other day for something- I cant remember what. GET OVER IT!