having problems finding a job

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most people realize something is a little different about me right away. Some people think i am stuck up, or something when i am just uncomfortable/weird.


Most of the time this helps we weed out people i probably don't want to be involved with anyway, but when it comes to Job Interviews, I think it really holds me back.
They really don't get to know the skilled and intelligent person i am under this nervous, fumbling,stuttering facade.

I have heard so many random assumptions made about myself, that it's hard not to get spun out in the possibilities of what people could be thinking about me at any given moment.
This circular pattern just gets worse and worse. It makes seconds feel like hours, as i struggle to get on point, but the more i know i need to get back on point, the more spun out i get.
a stranger could ask me the time, and i would just stare at my watch and not be able to answer because i can't stop thinking about a million other things, Like;" how long it's taking for me to answer?"


I am good at a lot of things, but gardening and music are my obsessions.
I doubt I'll money from my music any time soon, so i am more focused on finding a job in landscaping,farming or gardening.
I have tried Temp agencies and craigslist, nothing seems to go through there.

What else can i try? i am really a hard working and dependable person, but i was never able to develop good people skills, so when it comes to the interview i fizzle.(if i even get that far)

After checking your profile, it says Other autism spectrum disorder. Is there a service for people with disabilities in your area that will help you get a job. I would recommend going there.


Such a shame because my bf told me it's harder for people with disabilities to get a job, even if they can work or have held one before but it's the fricken judgments people have.

My son is 20, He's having the same problem, I told him the Apple (mac) store is hiring, but he's still afraid to try.

If your primary skill is gardening then that is probably something you can do on a self-employed basis.

Once you've managed to get a couple of gardening jobs you may get others on recommendation / networking. As long as you are moderately polite and do a good job, you should be fine.

Remember though that if you are doing landscape gardening, then whilst you may wish to display your own imagination in what you produce, ultimately the client has the final word as to what you are going to produce.

You may wish to draw up some possibilities on a computer and show them to the client to show what you might produce, what it would look like, and get their feedback. Then you can draw up whatever contract and go ahead and do it.

I don't really think they'd care if you were conversing with the sparrows in the garden whilst you are doing your work, as long as you end up doing a good job and not really upsetting anybody.

THIS is for everyone:
Gotta get past the fear. Just do it, as commercial says. That is what life comes down to in so many ways. YES, you will feel very uncomfortable.. yes, you will still feel afraid.. I have felt uncomfortable at work for the better part of the past 23 yrs! I had a mother who said 'too bad!' Do it anyway. Avoid negative talk such as 'can't', ' afraid' , and so on. It never helps to talk negatively, even if it may be your reality at the time.