A Very Rude Customer! :(

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I have a job at a fast food resturant. So I know how rude people can be. But I was on the cash register, and an ADULT called me a ret*d! -because I dropped a cup! I already hate that word! But when I heard him, call me that I lost it. I have several other medical conditions besides AS that can make me seem a little -less than normal- but hearing AN ADULT call somebody a ret*d is rediculous. I bawled for hours. People have called me other hurtful things but that crossed the line!

That's pathetic. Once I was called a ret*d while running and it really damaged my self-esteem(I basically stopped running in public). I think people don't notice how offensive the actual word can be when people take it seriously. ret*d is one of the words I hate and never use, and will often lecture people about when they use it.
I wouldn't take it to heart though(I know, I'm being a hypocrite), it's very casual, I think.
EMZ=]

Last night, I was at 7-Eleven with one of my friends, getting Slurpees. Some youngish man looked at me, and said to his friend, "This is making me feel even more ret*d." The two very young men were talking back and fourth to each other, and every second word that came out of each of their mouths, was ret*d. It was a relief for me to get out of there. The next time I see those two bullies, I'm going to clue them in.

Yanno, in general I oppose capital punishment, but really.. some people should just be shot. Why do they DO crap like that?

Forget it.

Words like that are a reflection on them, not you. It means nothing coming from a random idiot on the street.

It only hurts coming from a friend or relative or someone else who knows you well. Of course they aren't going to call you names, will they?

If people who drop cups every now and then are mentally ret*d then we've got an issue.

A few weeks ago, I had a reduction that I didn't deserve just because I was polite and smiling to the guy

The job isn't easy, sure enough.

"ret*d" in the mainstream is generally just a word used to express frustration or remark that someone wasn't particularly "smooth" about finishing a task--they did something inept, or else it's used to describe an idea that, in hindsight, was pretty bad. Some people are really mean, but I'd say the OP's customer may just have been frustrated and a little self-absorbed to think he could express his frustration that way, whereas the young men are probably just dealing with the insecurities of youth and a peer group that commonly uses that word. (I grew up with teens who used the word "gay" in such negative contexts instead--it's not meant to literally imply homosexuals, and "ret*d" isn't meant as a literal slur on people with disabilities--yeah, I know it doesn't feel that way, but most people who use such words in such ways have never even thought of what they might mean to someone who could be seen as falling under a more literal definition of the word, and if pointed out to them, they'd feel disconcerted and uncomfortable but would have trouble changing such a well-ingrained pattern of speech. Not that it's right, but it is a little more understandable.)

SeizeTheDay... I'm really sorry you have to put up with people treating you badly. I hope you feel better and don't get any further comments like this. ^_^ I think I have sensory issues so I have a weird gait and, like Emor, I've been made fun of for running, and also for other random tasks, and it's really damaging. If the feeling of being unable to present in a socially-lauded manner were experienced by these other people, they'd probably feel very sorry for having made fun of others.

Sadly, being physically adult does not make a person mature. I remember once when I was working as a cashier, some yahoo got mad at the girl at the next register because the computer came up with a different price than he wanted and cursed at her until she cried. She was a sweet little thing and was just trying to do a good job. The store manager escorted the individual out of the store and requested that he take his business elsewhere in the future.

I'm sorry you had a bad day. Hope it gets better.

Regards,

Patricia

Ive dealt with lots of rude customers.They annoy me, but I know it comes with the job and at the end of two weeks, I will be paid for all I have to deal with.I just think of that paycheck on payday.

I have never been called a ret*d by customers, but when I was in junior high, a few people called me that lots and even went as far as following me around during breaks and taunting me and calling me that.

Says a lot about him. Not so much about you.

Sorry to hear about what happened for you that sucks I have been called ret*d and its not a nice word at all the only exception is that when I am messing with my friends we'll playfully calleach other it because we are just stupid like that

Firstly try not to listen to them and just take it as how it reflects on them
Secondly only because someone is an adult does not make them an adult a lot of people are just simply morons

Don't let it it get to yu and just concentrate on earning thse bucks hhe because in the end fast food restaurant work is hard but at least you are somewhere

take care

Hurtful because on a certain level its true, and even by escaping the issue of needing to be normal and replacing it with - wanting to be yourself. The sudden onset of "your ret*d" being a inescapable trait - which you can't seem to hide... seems to be a wonderful addition to a otherwise full plate.

I agree.... the person that said that to you needs to be put down. I am against eugenics as a general rule........but grown up bullies are my one exception to that rule.

My ex-husband used to say that I looked ret*d in photographs because my eyes are always closed and sometimes I make weird facial expressions because I am self conscious . He said he didn't notice my A.S most of time, but sometimes I made "ret*d faces". ...................Did I mention he's my ex-husband! I'll never forget that..unforgivable!

ret*d means delay or hinder. ret*d means delayed. If I drop something, there was a retardation in the control of my own self that lead to the dropping of an object. It is completely different from attempting to say that a small mistake means your entire psyche is ret*d, but ultimately mistakes inherently are the result of a retardation of action, if you had processed the situation in a less delayed manner and not had the hindered ability to respond, would you have made a mistake? If there was not such a delay between the loss of grip on a cup and the movement of the hand to beneath the cop to stop it's fall, would the cup have dropped?

Everybody is ret*d relative to the universal constant of the speed of light. Everybody wishes they were less delayed in response to things. No need to start contemplating homicide because somebody stated something you are uncomfortable with, especially if they were saying it in an attempt to get you to contemplate homicide. People will act out their own narrative, we insert the meaning behind their actions for our own narrative we act out.

No need to get all ret*d about it, no need to hinder ourselves by dwelling too much on things that just happen to be true and irrelevant.

Customers can sometimes be really rude. They might have some problems with their jobs or families, and they pour it down to innocent people.

Sometimes I reply something like: "We have fees for listening to insults, they cost you 2000 each. Would you like to continue?"