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ConverseFan
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20 Jul 2019, 10:03 pm

I feel so anxious about the idea of working. I am willing to work hard but I just cannot keep up a good appearance to be honest. I have awkward body language and I cant speak properly. I also have difficulties with speaking to people I am not comfortable with. It takes time for me to become comfortable with people.

I would need to shower but showering almost everyday seems very overwhelming to me. I feel like I would make a very bad impression at a job interview. I would get too anxious.


I want to get a job but it seems really overwhelming. A lot of people think I am just faking it. They think I don't want a job. I am working on getting more job skills. I just would want a job where there is not a lot of talking and not a lot of high stress. I feel like I should be better at this because of how old I am.



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21 Jul 2019, 10:32 pm

Likewise

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Executive processing dysfunction

Can't think straight anymore

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23 Jul 2019, 3:18 am

ConverseFan wrote:
I feel so anxious about the idea of working. I am willing to work hard but I just cannot keep up a good appearance to be honest. I have awkward body language and I cant speak properly. I also have difficulties with speaking to people I am not comfortable with. It takes time for me to become comfortable with people.

I would need to shower but showering almost everyday seems very overwhelming to me. I feel like I would make a very bad impression at a job interview. I would get too anxious.


I want to get a job but it seems really overwhelming. A lot of people think I am just faking it. They think I don't want a job. I am working on getting more job skills. I just would want a job where there is not a lot of talking and not a lot of high stress. I feel like I should be better at this because of how old I am.
I'm the same way except I don't have problems taking a shower everyday 1ce I get into the routine/habit. My 2nd & 3rd job(which was my last) were working in retail while the store was open. I did custodial stuff so I didn't have to assist customers as much. I just did the best I could when I had to. I don't think I was that bad at it cuz I got good reviews. I just pushed myself through the anxiety & stress. My 1st job was a dish-washer & I did that for 10 months. It was hard work but I didn't have to interact with a lot of people. I interacted with a bit but it wasn't a huge number. I think that helped prepare me so I could work in retail. I know this probably isn't very helpful for you. If some of your problems are due to anxiety like me it may help if you were to get on some anxiety medication. There are some meds you could take as needed or for a short period of time in the beginning while your getting used to things. It might also help with the job interviews.


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23 Jul 2019, 3:31 am

ConverseFan wrote:
I feel so anxious about the idea of working. I am willing to work hard but I just cannot keep up a good appearance to be honest. I have awkward body language and I cant speak properly. I also have difficulties with speaking to people I am not comfortable with. It takes time for me to become comfortable with people.

I would need to shower but showering almost everyday seems very overwhelming to me. I feel like I would make a very bad impression at a job interview. I would get too anxious.


I want to get a job but it seems really overwhelming. A lot of people think I am just faking it. They think I don't want a job. I am working on getting more job skills. I just would want a job where there is not a lot of talking and not a lot of high stress. I feel like I should be better at this because of how old I am.


I understand. I am feeling aweful. I have to eat breakfast and then go to work this morning. While I am working feeling like this, it is like I have to drag my body to get it to function. The money I earn is such a miriacle. It may not be much, but I can keep my car running. I maybe on low hours part time temporary work, but without the car there is a couple of miles walk to a bus stop and my Mum can't make it back up the hill any more, and sometimes it takes me ages and ages to get back home if I am struggling. So I habe to do it. As long as I can go out and earn about £1500 to £2000 a year I am safe.

In the past I struggled, but I could work full time. But in the last 15 or so years I have been on such a decline that I really struggle to do 12 to 16 hours a week spread over 3 or 4 days.
In work I am getting so many of these energy loss which maybe shutdown things... Grrr! I am soo afraid I will be seen in the back workshop doing nothing while trying to recover from another partial shutdown that I try to keep working, which makes it ten times worse as I then prolong them and keep going in and out of them! And no one understands as it looks like I am complaining and lazy. Grr!

If I take the day off work, I get twice the hours given the next day I work, so it is not an option. (Is how the part time contract works).
Also, if I don't come into work, people are not going to get their bikes, so I have to work for them.

The one thing I don't have to do as I have been in and out this job many times before, is go for a job interview. And each time I know at least half of the staff or more, and I know the work back to front. So at least these parts I have been ok with. But about a year ago I had to see the then new manger. It took me about four hours to do it as I drove into the car park and I could not do it. I had to drive somewhere quiet with my Mum, have lunch and calm down (Took ages to calm down just to be able to eat!) and I had to return when I was ready. Thankfully no one noticed that I was there earlier and there was no time limit as the manager was there the whole day and had just said to pop in to see him.


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30 Jul 2019, 10:15 am

ConverseFan wrote:
I feel so anxious about the idea of working. I am willing to work hard but I just cannot keep up a good appearance to be honest.

Appearance is superficial, but precious lil "people" judge on appearance

So whatever


I have awkward body language and I cant speak properly.


Usually lil dipshits act like every thought and emotion that goes through their head is the latest greatest scientific invention. Then when I stupidly make the mistake of saying something , ass holes grunt "huh" and "what" like it is the etiquette equivalent of "excuse me"




I also have difficulties with speaking to people I am not comfortable with.


Yes but I have difficulty speaking to people I am comfortable with


And I am not comfortable with a lot of precious lil "people"


It takes time for me to become comfortable with people.


It's good until it's bad, then it's over. :twisted: Or it is , subject to imagination, :cry:

I would need to shower but showering almost everyday seems very overwhelming to me. I feel like I would make a very bad impression at a job interview. I would get too anxious.


Medication

Counseling

Some jobs, do not involve too much interacting with precious lil "people"

Telecommute


I want to get a job but it seems really overwhelming.

It is overwhelming

Always fear ostracism

Canned a lot of times


A lot of people think I am just faking it.

They tell me that I am lazy or they act like it



They think I don't want a job.

Merely "want" won't get it for you

You have to apply

But racism sexism homophobia fatophobia classism lookism ableism

Even if you are the most quantitatively qualified for the job, that does not guarantee you get the job


But that doesn't matter because I have zero job skills


But that doesn't matter because plenty of ass holes have zero job skills

The are :skull: licensed clinical social worker :wink:


I am working on getting more job skills.




I just would want a job where there is not a lot of talking and not a lot of high stress.


Likewise but there are not many jobs like that and a lot of applicants compete for those jobs


Unless you have a lot of job skills or a spectacular demeanor (personality) (based on the interviewers standards) it takes a lot of job networking, probability, luck, or clerical error, to get the job that you want



Bay area rapid transportation
Riivos
Residence inn
K force.

Four companies, made clerical error and hired my worthless corpse



I feel like I should be better at this because of how old I am.




"Should", "can" and "will" are all different things


And I feel like I should be better at it because of school