Moving out is causing job issues...

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I've been on an Apprenticeship scheme in Business Admin since February this year.
I'm employed by local government and they offer a wide range of placements.
The first placement I went to was ideal in terms of the atmosphere, but the workload didn't suit me at all and would make me very panicky.
So I asked to have my placement switched after giving it a go for 3 months.

I was then transferred to a new placement in May. At this point I was asked to move in with my boyfriend and realised it was something I want to do. However he lives 70 miles away. He lives in-between two big cities so there are twice as many jobs here so I figured it would be a good move career-wise as well, as the whole idea of the apprenticeship scheme is to get a job whilst on it or afterwards.

I began having family and personal issues with myself and became depressed and am now waiting mental health screening.
The main boss of all the apprenticeships noticed this and thoguht that the placement wasn't good for me and so at the end of this month has requested a meeting to try and find another placement to start in July.

However I plan on moving in August. So I would be starting a placement only to announce that I am leaving as you need to give a months notice.
I worry that this will look bad on my record and I don't know whats best to do.

Many have aasked why arent I logically moving after my apprenticeship is definitely over? But the simple answer is that theres a lot of other problems with me right now and I would find it best to start fresh somewhere new as soon as I can for emotional reasons.
So I really just want advice about what to do, and whether at 19 its okay for me to start new regardless of career. I have this idea that it's alright to do that whilst I'm young...

It's OK to start over at any age, if you feel it's right for you. If you feel confident that you can make a go of it in a new place, then why not try? There is no right or wrong answer here, just do what you feel best. Perhaps there could be a compromise, in that if you get a new placement where you are now, you could extend it for just a couple of months so it won't look like such an abrupt departure. If the placement doesn't fit you well, you can always terminate it early because you need to move!

Do try to get your own mood stabilized and yourself in a good state of mental health before you move in with your boyfriend, though. Moving in with someone definitely changes the relationship dynamics. Even moving just by yourself is stressful, but it can be made doubly so if you are isolated from friends and family because of distance, in an unfamiliar environment, and simultaneously job hunting. Make sure there is good access to mental health professionals and any other kind of support network you need. Good luck!