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Keeno
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28 Aug 2006, 1:08 pm

Wonder if anyone else has been in this situation and how they'd deal with it.

A couple of girls at work today were leaving me notes - really nice notes. For example I arrived at work to find a post-it note from them on my desk saying "You brighten up our day when you arrive at 9am!"

Now, I don't know what I'm doing to brighten up their day, but it really helped me through the day and made me feel really flattered. But how do I respond, how should I reciprocate to something like this? Anyone had this situation and what have you done?



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28 Aug 2006, 3:38 pm

If I were you, I'd dismiss it as a prank to set you up for embarassment. For me, it would sound really farfetched that a couple of girls would be so pleased by my presence at work. If the notes were from just one girl, it'd sound at least somewhat believable, but notes from more than one girl seem like a prank. Either you're working with people who have a crush on you, or some really clever bullies. If nothing else, I'll give them credit for coming up with something that sounds so good.

I don't recommend doing anything to reciprocate. First of all, do you know who exactly the notes are from? Either way, don't jump to conclusions. Save all the notes you find, and stash them in a drawer at your desk. If you have access to a scanner, scan them in and save them on your computer. Then wait a few more days. In the meantime, talk to a co-worker you trust, preferable a male. Ask if them if they got any similar notes recently. Then act accordingly.

The reason I'm concerned is that leaving love notes on desks (or in lockers) is something you find in junior high (grades 7-8 ) or high school (grades 9-12). Very few people would do it even in college, let alone an office environment.



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28 Aug 2006, 3:49 pm

it is nice but yeah good advice proced with cautioin aspies are gullible and naieve.
if you get more sure then maybe you can respond but play it cool dude. chick slike this anyway



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28 Aug 2006, 5:01 pm

Aspie1 wrote:
If I were you, I'd dismiss it as a prank to set you up for embarassment. For me, it would sound really farfetched that a couple of girls would be so pleased by my presence at work. If the notes were from just one girl, it'd sound at least somewhat believable, but notes from more than one girl seem like a prank. Either you're working with people who have a crush on you, or some really clever bullies. If nothing else, I'll give them credit for coming up with something that sounds so good.

I don't recommend doing anything to reciprocate. First of all, do you know who exactly the notes are from? Either way, don't jump to conclusions. Save all the notes you find, and stash them in a drawer at your desk. If you have access to a scanner, scan them in and save them on your computer. Then wait a few more days. In the meantime, talk to a co-worker you trust, preferable a male. Ask if them if they got any similar notes recently. Then act accordingly.

The reason I'm concerned is that leaving love notes on desks (or in lockers) is something you find in junior high (grades 7-8 ) or high school (grades 9-12). Very few people would do it even in college, let alone an office environment.


I know who sent the notes. It is two girls named Claire and Rebecca. They told me it was them, as well as putting their names on one of the notes, and I'd know from the handwriting anyway.

I'm relatively new to this workplace. One factor is it's been hard adapting to the interpersonal dynamic of the workplace which is so much more complex than in previous jobs. In other workplaces I've worked in very small teams and often alone, now I'm in a large team.

This could indeed have very easily led me to do something embarrassing, especially as I just want a girlfriend so badly. Another twist is I've already been out with another girl from this workplace named Sara. Not sure if I'll follow up Sara any more, for different reasons. But with that in mind I could also be seen as a 'player', and seen as desperate, if I do anything about these notes - we don't want that.



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29 Aug 2006, 12:58 pm

Uh, let give you some advice on finding a girlfriend, despite me not knowing much about romance. I have read on the Internet that it is NEVER, and I repeat NEVER, a good idea to make a girlfriend in your workplace, because that may start a rumor mill, and it may harm your career.



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29 Aug 2006, 1:03 pm

Keeno, I do agree with the others that it could be a prank to set you up. I've been there with these but caught them before I was humiliated.

Stereokid wrote:
Uh, let give you some advice on finding a girlfriend, despite me not knowing much about romance. I have read on the Internet that it is NEVER, and I repeat NEVER, a good idea to make a girlfriend in your workplace, because that may start a rumor mill, and it may harm your career.
Yeah, don't EVER dis the Internet, because everything on the Internet is always true... :roll: Don't believe everything you read on the Internet, Stereokid.



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29 Aug 2006, 1:44 pm

Stereokid wrote:
it is NEVER, and I repeat NEVER, a good idea to make a girlfriend in your workplace, because that may start a rumor mill, and it may harm your career.


To be honest with you, my AS employment advisor said this. Well not that it's never a good idea, just that I'm more than likely to be walking into a minefield.

I really appreciate everyone's opinions and interpretations on this.