funny thing people do when you quit a job . . .

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Or quit anything, for that matter, but I end up moving pretty frequently so I've noticed it more with jobs . . .

My job right now is working in a call center - most people are civil to me and we talk about things like psychology and any other topic that happens to fall into my special interests - that is it - no one says anything if I call in sick, etc . . .

Well, I decided about a month ago that I had just had it with this job and that I really wanted to go back to working in a university environment - and I told some people at work so I could use them for references and the other day I had an interview (which looks fairly promising)

But here is the funny part - everyone is being REALLY nice to me and telling me how I should stay (these are the same people who complain about the same things I do and say they want to find a new job) - one girl even decided to make it her 'project' that I stay and sent me a little glurge Bible story about not quitting when things are hard (to which I sent her an email saying that God also does not want us to stay in negative stituations - religion is one of my special interests so I'll play theology with her until she is sorry she ever even brought it up )

But this just amuses me - no one gives a rat's rear end about other people until they think they are going to no longer see them - I notice something similar with death and major illness . . .
I think you should let people know you appreciate them whenever you think of it, but then I get told that is annoying . . .

yeah it is annoying.
this retrospective carign is nt foolery, they say s**t they dont mean.
its what they do...dont be fooled find you own path.
strong is the dark side.

Another thing could be that these people realize that if you do leave, that means more work until they find a replacement.

As far as management is concern, they would rather keep someone that is performing at least medicore than to have to find someone else. It is not cheap to look for a new employee.

When I quit my last job I was so fed up with a lack of working hours that I just wanted to get the heck on outta there.

When I did quit well I was not even scheduled for next week and I knew they would not even schedule me 2 weeks later (and I called to ask about that too) and I wrote a note saying I quit here is my 2 weeks notice.

Did not even come back into the place until 2 weeks later when I went to get my last pay stub.

That reminds me of the way people suddenly treated me differently after a car accident, when I had to use a walker for a few weeks. And not just co-workers, but total strangers. A friend of mine who's a nurse offered some interesting insight: it's because they're afraid of death, major illness, changing jobs, etc. that they treat you differently; suddenly they associate YOU with whatever emotional baggage they have on the subject, and the subconscious thought of how THEY would handle it. So they either avoid you (hiding from the bogeyman), or act excessively nice (like a puppy whining and wagging his tail to show deference so the "monster" won't attack him.)

I have had two different reactions; the "suddenly nice" reaction where people are getting choked up and exchanging emails and gifts. They ask a lot of questions about my life and about where I'm going, etc. The second reaction is anger, which I believe is a form of jealousy. It comes out in exclamations, "You'll be back!" and arguments about how to improve my situation at the same place.
I think the jealous reaction comes from their lack of motivation and that they feel judged when someone "flys the coop".

At least they're being nice, and it sounds like that one girl is trying to help you in some way, misguided or not. If you were a poor employee, they would be like "good riddance." Maybe not to your face, but behind your back. Trust me.

If you're going to leave, don't spoil the moment by telling everyone off if they do start gushing over this fact. Just leave, and be done with it. Take light in the fact that, according to what you've said, you probably will get good references.

I got invited to a table dance...

But as many mentioned, I didn't want to get involved with the people, so they were picking me up at 4pm but I wasn't home

thats how i feel all the time!

you summed it up real good, some will suddenly be all sorts of friendly because they think somebody might have found a gold mine and they want info about the location so they can try and get in on the action or they are bent out of shape because somebody found a gold mine and are fully awhere they could never get in on the action because they don't have the mining equipment ( to stupid to do anything more than they currently do)