New job stress

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I'm finding my new job very stressful. I have to actually deal with clients in this job whereas I used to be working away in the background in my old office. The frustrating thing is that it's taken me a long time to find a job where I get to use my skills I learned through my qualifications, I used to be under-employed, but now I get to use my brain at work, I'm finding it so difficult to deal with people.

I am soooo tired. Sometimes I just sit staring at the screen clicking on things because I'm so stressed I can remember what I'm doing.

Is it an option to talk to your boss and explain the situation? Maybe something can be arranged. It would be very sad to lost a good job just because of something that might be fixable. Best wishes.

I told him I was stressed, but I think he though I meant that I'm not used to working to tight deadlines.

I feel a bit better now, I've managed to solve a problem that was bothering me. Sometimes my job is like when Sheldon and Raj just stare at a board and eye of the tiger plays in the background. The thinking bit is what I like, it's dealing with customers that stresses me and the trying to work out what exactly my role is here.

This time next year I may be less stressy. Hopefully.

I'm also in a similar situation.

It's really difficult when you think you've landed a great job, then come to find our there are some issues (like working with clients, or in my case working closely with my superior) that make it difficult.

Believe in yourself and be patient. All will be fine..

Don't worry. It takes time to settle in to a new job.

I recently moved jobs after 15 years. It was one of the hardest things i've ever done.
The first couple of months were terrible. I have a real problem recognising faces and can get easily lost inside buildings. It wasn't the job itself that was hard for me but just getting through the day, finding the canteen and boss's office, recognising co workers, not sounding like a dick etc. I found it exhausting and quite terrifying.
I have been in my new job 6 months now and I'm really enjoying it. It just took time to learn everything all over again. I reckon in another 6 months i might actually be able to find the restroom
You will get there.

(I went from working in a building with 200 staff to working with over 2000)

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Last edited by Quixotic on 21 Nov 2011, 5:31 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I would suggest you to build up a set of routines to work from. What I mean by that is a set of stock phrases and I guess if you directly work with customers gestures, which you can replay without too much of mental effort. It takes a lot to build up such a library of sentences, maybe even fragments, but it is IMHO worth it.

The stock phrase I want to incorporate is:"please send me the info I need to finish this project or I won't be able to complete it and it willl hang over my head for weeks while my manager keeps asking when it will be finished. NEVER at this rate!."

I'm new so don't want to start stepping over lines. Not sure if I am meant to harass people for info or whether that's my manager's responsibility.

I really have trouble working out how to communicate things and knowing how abrupt I can be in my requests. Or am I not giving them all the info they need? I have no idea.

I would be good at what I do if it didn't involve other people. Lol.

Are you able to discuss your job role with your manager? In a new job it is perfectly reasonable for you to put questions to your manager if you are unsure of anything. You don't need to sound like you don't know what you're doing. Just be direct and ask if he/she can clarify a few things for you.

You can observe what other people do and copy.

Can you send an email or say something like I'm sorry I don't seem to have received X could you please send it to me. If people aren't doing things you have to be persistent and ask at intervals. Talking by phone or in person can be better than email as they can't leave it until later. If you ask once and they are busy they will probably forget and won't do it until someone "shouts" for it.

The manager advice is very good, it is better to ask at the beginning rather than not to know by the point you should be doing it on your own.