How do you quit a job that you don't like?

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02 Jun 2012, 6:34 pm

Basically, I'm stuck with a few job opportunities to choose from.

There is one that I want to work at, and two that have treated me poorly in some way.

The two that treat me poorly, though, know it, but want to keep me because it would be more work for them to replace me. I feel like without me, the jobs would fall apart. I don't have to worry about not having work to do, but I know I would have to work the leftover shifts that no one wants because the rest of the staff aren't competent enough to do the same job. So I wouldn't even have a preference over the hours that I work.

Also, in one of the jobs, I applied to be promoted, and they turned me down. But they are dangling it in my face that if I go through some training with them, then if another opportunity pops up in the future, maybe they will hire me.

Anyways, I could go on forever, but long story short, the only reason why I am staying is because I know I will be given a hard time by those two jobs if I quit. Also, I like some of the other people who work there, and don't want to disappoint them, but that is besides the point. So instead of standing up for myself, I keep getting pushed around and would have to turn down the good job if I stayed.

How do I quit? I've never quit before except for reasons such as school, or moving away.



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02 Jun 2012, 6:49 pm

Knock on your boss's door, then enter, then look him in the eye and say, "Go f*ck yourself!" Works every time.



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02 Jun 2012, 6:52 pm

The best way to quit is to stay on good terms with your current employer (in case you need them as a reference), and look for another job while still working for them. Once you find another job that you want, and you've been given a start date, then give notice at the old job.

I guess I'm confused though, because it sounds as if you currently have 3 jobs? Or are you working one and being offered two others?

If you're still young, and depending on the type of work, having to work shifts you don't want is necessary at times. I had a few different jobs when I was young where I had to work evenings and weekends, and one at which I had to work graveyard shift.

Every employer is different as to how they handle shift work. Some like people on "permanent" shifts - which might change if the person changes tasks or gets promoted but are otherwise static. Other places have rotating shifts. There's usually a more preferred shift that most people want, and usually those with the least time on the job get the least desirable shifts, although sometimes there's a senior employee who likes the odd shifts. When you've been employed for a while and openings come up on better shifts you may get a chance to move to a better shift.

If you wind up on a shift you don't like, I would always make sure your boss knows that you want to be on the waiting list for another shift. (Mind, you might be behind a few others on that waiting list.) If there's a high turnover and you do good work, it might be sooner than you think to get a better shift.

If you have to train people or are a lead on the shift you're on, make sure you train the others well enough that they can be relied on to take over if you get the chance for another shift. Give them a chance to get to know one task really well, and then another, and another, until they know everything you do. This also keeps their job interesting for them, so they'll be more interested and likely to do a good job. On the other hand, if you just give them the grunt work, they'll get bored or disinterested and won't learn to fill your shoes. Then you could be stuck there longer. This can be a win-win or lose-lose situation, and you might have more control over it than you think.

It's also a good idea to take your employer up on any training they offer. Not only does it open up new opportunities for you because you'll have more knowledge, it also lets management know you're eager to learn and interested in the company. That's the kind of person they look for to promote.



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02 Jun 2012, 6:59 pm

SpiritBlooms wrote:
I guess I'm confused though, because it sounds as if you currently have 3 jobs? Or are you working one and being offered two others?


I was working two jobs initially, then got an offer for a third that I took up. But I was notified of my schedule late, and the pay is worse, so I basically am not able to supplement my poor income by working at the other jobs.

I asked around and was offered a better job from one of my bosses.



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02 Jun 2012, 10:02 pm

take the better job and give your current employer two weeks notice. they should understand you wanting to better your lot in life and wish you well. if they don't, it's all the better that you're getting out of a negative situation.



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03 Jun 2012, 11:02 pm

Just write up a letter to your boss saying

Dear -Boss's Name-

I regret to inform you that I must resign my position of -name- effective today. My two weeks will begin today and will end on -date-.

I thank you very much for the opportunity to work with everyone here and for what I have learned through my position.

Thank you

-Signature-

If they hassle you, you don't have to answer if you don't want to. It's illegal to fire someone once they give two weeks notice, but they don't have to keep you for the two weeks.



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03 Jun 2012, 11:38 pm

Take the better job if you like what it is and are happy with it but stay on good terms wit your job you are leaving. You never know you may need to get the old job back one day.



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04 Jun 2012, 10:41 pm

Sounds like some good advice, jhingl and thewhitrbbit.

Thanks everyone for the input, I hope it goes well *crosses fingers*


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06 Jun 2012, 12:26 am

Just don't show up for work.



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06 Jun 2012, 8:57 pm

androbot2084 wrote:
Just don't show up for work.


That's a good way to get fired, which is usually a bad idea as one wants to be able to get a good reference from a previous employer.



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08 Jun 2012, 3:57 am

try working at the good job for few days and if you find the colleagues and boss good and there is no nasty politics there then continue there and ask for a resignation from current job politely

be good with present employer dont leave on a bad note because you dont want to spoil your reputation.


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08 Jun 2012, 6:27 am

Play this song for your boss.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EPrSVkTRb24[/youtube]

He will get the point fast.


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08 Jun 2012, 1:22 pm

I am not a slave and I can walk off the job anytime I want. If the employer does not like it and he retaliates with a bad reference I will initiate a wildcat strike.



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08 Jun 2012, 2:52 pm

androbot2084 wrote:
I am not a slave and I can walk off the job anytime I want. If the employer does not like it and he retaliates with a bad reference I will initiate a wildcat strike.


There's a big difference between can and should.



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08 Jun 2012, 11:36 pm

Autistic people get bad references no matter what they do.



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16 Jun 2012, 5:33 pm

Just as an update, I will be leaving my current employer for the better job today.

Time to write a letter of resignation :D

(this is scatmaster...)


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