So how to "take it"?

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I have a problem at work. I have a very difficult time just "taking it" from my bosses. I just realized today (yeah ) that I can identify the "I'm giving it to you just for emotional release because I need to chew someone out and you're right in front of me doing something I don't want you to be doing" tone...

What is the appropriate response to this? I want to defend myself because I feel attacked and often I explain my behavior or identify the correct wrongdoer (lol that's a neat wordplay); anyway... so I'm trying to stop explaining myself when I'm supposed to "take it". (a co-worker said to just take it, what does that mean anyway?)

Thoughts?

if my boss were regularly venting his/her frustration on me, i'd be looking for a new job so i could give two weeks notice ASAP.

I'm looking for a new job as a recent graduate with roughly two years of experience... I went over two years without a job prior to this one. I wish I could consider that an option, but I'm pretty much stuck where I am, I just want to stop coming home and crying all afternoon because I can't understand how I can do so much and try so hard and still get s**t on. Well whatever. Maybe I have some greatly deluded ideas of grandeur or something going on but really I go in, I have a good attitude, I work fast, clean and organized like I was trained in school and I focus on my work... ugh, anyway, it's not a social kitchen to begin with, I know how it sounds, what I just wrote there, but it's a very serious environment.

I'm starting to think this is just part of the entire "thing" I'm missing... can't stress about something I can't possibly change, right?

I would normally agree with cathylynn about picking up and leaving, but the economy is the pitts right now and I personally don't think I would be able to find another job. I had a hard enough time finding my current one.

Sounds like harassment to me.

i do agree, this sounds like harassment and should not be accepted without consideration.

if you have reasons to keep your job, however, there are ways to cope with someone venting in your direction (meaning, you are the one they talk to, but it's not about you personally).
if one of my friends needs to vent, i go into shutdown mode by choise, allowing me to sit there and appear to listen, without realising anything, just nod your head whenever there seems so be a small silence, and you should be good.

Once you lose respect from your Boss what is to prevent him from firing you? Bosses never keep the people they chew out all the time but rather they keep the people that they praise.

If he is attacking you verbally then ask him for more information about what is wrong. Maybe he does not like you and that is why he vents his anger on you. Talk to your colleagues and see if they have noticed this.

Sounds like the military.

Yes Sir, No Sir,