nick007 wrote:
I think it depends on what kind of job you are trying to get. This is going to sound obvious but you should skip applying at jobs that require a uniform or a specie type of shirt if you have problems with that clothing. Some jobs may just want you too look decent. Perhaps you could find nice looking cloths that are made out of a more comfortable fabric if you search around or you could have something custom made to look nice in the fabric you like.
The idea of custom made clothing is interesting. I'll have to look into that. I'm sure I could drive a tailor mad.
nick007 wrote:
I hate dressing formal too but I can tolerate it when I have to for things like weddings & job interviews; I never submitted an app for a job that required formal attire but I dressed nicer than I would for the job for the interviews & I tell myself that I'll be home & taking it off in an hour or so
I've only worn formal clothes once, when I went to a competition with a formal dress code. (My teachers talked me into it and only told me about the dress code after I had signed up.
) I managed to stay dressed (besides the shoes) on the drive there (about 30 minutes), with the help of a lot of stimming, but once we got there I couldn't take it any longer and took off the jacket, tie, shirt, and shoes, putting up with constant yelling instead. When the competition started I did poorly because all I could think about was the pants that I couldn't take off. I also yelled at a teacher, pushed a classmate, and kicked a table. So my ability to tolerate it is pretty low. I
might be able to tolerate it for that hour or so (or I might go on a rampage), but probably not a countless number of those hours.
VAGraduateStudent wrote:
Yeah you should avoid uniforms. Have you tried going in stores and just testing the fabrics? Not like going all out and trying them on (that would be like a step two) but maybe just feeling them first? Maybe you could find something similar to what you wear, but a little dressier.
I haven't looked specifically for comfortable formal clothing, but I have spent A LOT of time looking for comfortable casual clothes. When I was younger my parents were constantly dragging me around to try on everything in the store, with little success. It took me until I was ten to even find socks that I could stand. I didn't find the jeans that I wear until junior high, before that I only wore sweatpants. Not just any sweatpants, I always had to go from store to store trying on all of them until I found a pair that I could wear. They all had something wrong. The ones I did buy generally had to be modified in some way, like cutting off the bottoms to rid of the elastic cuffs. The jeans that I wear went out of production years ago and I still haven't found anything to replace them. Shoes have to be wide (uniformly so, no constriction in the middle like most "wide" shoes have) and loose. If my feet are constricted then I'll become immediately violent. As far as I've found, that means "skate shoes". I've never found any long sleeve shirts that I could stand. This experience makes me very pessimistic that I'll be able to find bearable formal clothes. I would definitely have to try them on, because it's often just a seam or something that sets me off.
thewhitrbbit wrote:
But sometimes, if you want something bad enough, you'll learn to overcome it. I got a recent volunteer job where I have to wear screen printed shirts. I HATE screen printing, but I love the job enough to deal with it.
I don't think it's something that can be "overcome" with willpower. When I wear something uncomfortable it becomes the only thing I can think of and the stress builds until I "snap" and start kicking/hitting/throwing things. I can't control it.
I thought this was a common problem with ASDs, but I guess not?
(Sorry, I'm tired and think I'm rambling.)