Paranoid of Coworkers at Work

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So I get paranoid at work. I have a really hard time telling when people are being honest and when they're straight up lying to your face. Additionally, my office is extremely gossipy. I try not to give them anything to talk about, but I know I've done/said weird things and several tried to help me get used to my new city when I first moved here. I admittedly tried to fit in so badly with them that I got extremely drunk with two of them on one St. Patty's day, and I ended up sick. Honestly, I don't drink, except socially, and even then one is my limit. And most of the time I order pop. Except in cases like this where I feel I have to drink to fit in.

I wear earbuds at work anyway to drown out their endless chatter (but also so I don't hear them and automatically assume they're talking about me), but is there anything else I can do? Should I just ignore it? I haven't told anyone at work that I am have Aspergers.

Anyway, back to the drinking story, this probably sounds ridiculous since it happened St. Patty's day 2011, but I came in yesterday, then left an hour later b/c my tylenol hadn't kicked in and I had had a major headache since Saturday night. This morning I heard one guy talking (not my boss and no one that I work with, but one of the two I went out with on St. Patty's) and all I could make out was "came in and then left at 9:30", which is when I left yesterday. I'm starting to think our timekeeper (a MAJOR gossiper) told him that I left after an hour, and he's thinking that I had a hangover. I DID NOT. But now that's what I'm stressing about, them thinking that I'm some kind of a drunk.

Seriously, how do I stop worrying about this type of thing? (Note, this is just one situation).

I totally relate to the paranoia. I tend to think overheard conversations are about me and in the negative - and I often don't know whether people are giving me the business (jibes) in good fun or being serious and negative.

If I co-worker says something about me not looking busy I take it to mean they think I just sit around all day and they don;t like it - and I don't - I work my butt off.

Generally the only way I cope and I think the only way that one can cope is to assume that all the other people are acting in a positive fashion. YES - I am sure that there are some instances where i have been totally wrong - but I think the alternative is worse. Better, in my opinion, to look naive and kind, which people can tolerate even celebrate, than irrational and mean. And generally I do believe, in most instances, people actually are being kind and not unpleasant.

This is a good dose of simply ignorance works for me.