Work vs relationship

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So, I have Masters degree in Information Studies (in other words, I'm a librarian) who has been searching for work for a little more than two years now. Recently, things are looking up: one of the academic libraries I recently applied to has emailed me back, and is curious about my ability to relocate to work.

The kicker? This library is in Alabama, and I'm a Canadian. I am certain that I could gain a temporary work visa with little difficulty, and am further confident that I can gain dual citizenship (my dad is an American living abroad).

But...I'm afraid that doing this will force me to break up with my girlfriend of one year. Yes, I know this sounds like a dumb reason not to go for a solid career, but I really love her. But she's said she's been in a long-distance relationship before, and doesn't want to go through that ever again. So I feel very, very torn about this. I really don't know what to do here.

Wow, that's a tough one.
Long distance relationships don't usually work, but then again neither do Broke Husband relationships.

Ask the Library for such a great relocation package (AND contract), that you'd really love to move regardless (and could afford to take her along).
Then you'd know how serious they are, or they might get sketchy about the whole thing which may show they weren't all that great of a job offer in the first place.

there's 3.5 billion women
there's a bit less than 3.5 billion jobs
but that's logic and we're not Vulcans.


Good Luck eh!

a girlfriend of one year, unless she's tied down by commitments, should know you well enough by now to be willing to go with you.

i had a friend in school who was engaged long-distance for four years before he and his fiancée could manage to live in the same city. they talked every day via an 800-number. nowadays it would be an unlimited long distance calling plan. it can work. they've been married now for 20 years.

i wonder of she really has your best interests at heart if she doesn't want you to try this.

Propose to her,marry her, and take her, with you.

Can you buy food, clothes, and shelter with love? Let me know when you can.