Eye Contact Issue

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Today, I was at work today and my color contact fell off (medium grey; dark from a distance), but my natural is dk brown, and I couldn't find it anywhere since I didn't realize it was off until it was too late. It cost a lot of money too, but at that point it was a sunk cost (cost that shouldn't interfere with future decisions) so I decided to stay.

So I was like, "Should I quit my job?", "Should I go home saying I am sick", "I am going to lose 1k if I quit before I ship" "Will they think I am a fool?" I care a lot about my image.

I stay at work like normal after I told myself, "No, who gives an F what they think I am here to make money" "They don't pay my bills" "I have kids to support (I don't but it help me lol)" "You won't ever see them again after you're done" And I force myself to endure the day.

Do you think people will notice all that much???

No one said anything, but I tried to glance away a lot, not look people directly in the eye.

IMHO the people who look and make an issue of it can go suck an egg. you sound like you have figured out a good way to cope.

That is true, but no one made an issue of it (I avoided the one guy who ask me how I got my eyes a month ago), but I am going to act normal around him after my haircut. I think one person notice, but the rest didn't. The eye contact wasn't that bright to be noticeable, but it's noticeable under good lighting, you really can't tell 5 feet away from me, but up-close yes.

I just don't want to look like a conceited fool, and it did help my vision too.

Those coping mechanisms help me a lot in fact, since I was like having mini panic attacks. But I was thinking if I was a struggling mother, and my kids depended on this money, then I better earn that money. It would be immature to let my kids starve just because I am that vain and foolish.

That's actually motivating me to work overtime and long hours. And using certain phrases like, "make bank", "work, work, work", "money is everything"

Last edited by Xlexa on 10 Oct 2013, 2:06 am, edited 1 time in total.

there is a time for work and a time for rest. if you work too hard it can lower the quality of your rest, and do that too often and it begins to affect your work.

This is temporary, and I'm getting 8 hrs of sleep.

I'm just working 13 hrs a day (5 days a week), and I have my job under control.

No, you should not quit your job over a lost colour contact.

Yeah I know that. I didn't quit because I realize how foolish those thoughts were at that time when the thought of losing 1k potential money was there. I decided this would just make me a stronger person, so I stick with it.

It should get easier tomorrow.

And here I thought this was going to be about the other kind of "eye contact".

sometimes this fails me. I am too quick to respond to people, but only really look them in the eye if they are doing the same. its rude to me if they don't and besides, doesn't make for much of a conversation really. the ones who do for ages look at you are usually not thinking of anything but to be occasional pests.

13 hours a day? You could have a heart attack! Everyone needs other forms of rest besides just sleep and with the remaining 3 waking hours per day, you'd only have time for commuting and basic self-maintenance.

1K? You mean you only get paid $1,000 for all this work? What is it an internship?