How do I be assertive with my boss?

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Hi:
I had most recently had gotten a part time position working as a party planner with at a kid's salon. I only happened to go in for a few weeks. It was during the time there that the boss had seemed to say one thing and do another. However, several things have not worked out such as the boss being irresponsible. They also appeared to be very flaky by saying one thing and doing another.

For instance:
1. I was to create cold calls- They never got me the list like they said
2. We were supposed to go to Costco and get drinks and snacks so I could make money- We never did it because they just kept changing their story
3.Whenever they did not have any clients, they had me stay home while the boss went to goof off.
4. We were also supposed to work on a website to get posted for people to see

The question remains, what should I say to this person when it comes to sending an e-mail?
How should I let them down by mentioning that I am not going to work with them anymore and that I am seeking work elsewhere?

Since it sounds like you are leaving, the best option is to say nothing.

Thank them for the opportunity and give them your 2 weeks notice.

The problem with this situation is that she has sent me home for the last two weeks. She was supposed to contact me about last Friday and never did so. Yet I did send them a text just now by saying that it was not going to work out.

I have a close friend who got let go and it was the boss who should have been fired instead.

When the boss called her on the phone my friend made sure to take the road of "dont pee on my leg and tell me its raining". She let her have it. She didn't hold anything back when it came to calling it how it is. (no name calling or anything though, just the facts)

I think my friend feels a lot better for having handled it this way. Though it makes you wonder, was it worth it, now that the boss will go and lie and ruin your reputation, etc.

Many people trying to build a career for themselves should probably not do this, it could backfire on your career.

I quit a place not too long ago. I didn't want to burn bridges so I didn't complain about the myriad of things I would have liked to complain about. But when they said "Well, we enjoyed working with you, it's been great", I simply could not bring myself to lie and reciprocate. It was an awkward minute or so while they figured out that I had just accidentally revealed that I hate their guts. It was awesome.

You mean, AND keep your job?

With work experiences that are dissatisfying, I think it can be really easy for us to want to burn bridges. But we don't think about what will happen if we do--we loose job recommendations and so on. So with something like this, I'd say thank you for the experience and move on. Don't ever criticize your boss or anyone else at the company you work for, especially to a future employer. I hope things work out for you and that you find a job that suits you better!

See I am worried about being too accusatory with her and putting her on offense. I did let her know that I am in the process of seeking work elsewhere along with leaving a two week notice. She did acknowledge it by saying, "Thanks for letting me know." I have not heard anything from her since about wanting me to come in.

However, should I sent her a thank you note and let her know that I am seeking a part time position with a bit more of a structured environment and that someone like me needs structure period?

I really think this situation is all for the best and in this case. While I had given it a try and enjoyed the surrounding area, I really don't think the boss was too excited about me. Especially when I would leave, you could hear it in their voice that they were glad that I was leaving and that they were not uber excited for my next visit. I know when someone is excited to see me next time as well so...