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Adamantium
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25 Jun 2014, 12:49 pm

So I had a bad annual review, because I did something stupid last year and failed to submit needed paperwork for months and months, but it was also a good review because they explicitly recognized my particular strengths and described me as a huge asset to the team! :D

A team of managers is going to help me find a way to never get into the kind of procedural trouble that messed me up last year. They have been very sincere about working with me to make me achieve my best potential and protect me from my areas of weakness.

I could not be more grateful. I am also very glad I disclosed. All I have to do now is take advantage of the support they are offering and not screw up--if I do the other things that I do well, I will get a good review and a good raise next year.

They could easily have fired me for my FUBAR paperwork, but instead they are coaching me and giving me supports to help.

I feel so lucky! I can hardly believe it.



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25 Jun 2014, 7:38 pm

Did you get a raise?

Seriously....I'm glad you feel relieved.

I bet you'll get a rip-roaring review, with a big raise, next year!



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26 Jun 2014, 8:30 am

Wow, that is really great. They could've been hard on you or condescending, but, it's fantastic that they took the approach of appreciating your strengths and supporting you. Excellent work!

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So I had a bad annual review, because I did something stupid last year and failed to submit needed paperwork for months and months, but it was also a good review because they explicitly recognized my particular strengths and described me as a huge asset to the team! :D

A team of managers is going to help me find a way to never get into the kind of procedural trouble that messed me up last year. They have been very sincere about working with me to make me achieve my best potential and protect me from my areas of weakness.

I could not be more grateful. I am also very glad I disclosed. All I have to do now is take advantage of the support they are offering and not screw up--if I do the other things that I do well, I will get a good review and a good raise next year.

They could easily have fired me for my FUBAR paperwork, but instead they are coaching me and giving me supports to help.

I feel so lucky! I can hardly believe it.



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02 Jul 2014, 12:35 pm

Thanks Kraftie and MissDorkness.

I am almost 49 and feel like a much younger employee in certain ways and that is frustrating. I am also somewhat worried that I just can't learn certain skills to do with handling people and I will not succeed. But that they are being so supportive is a gift and I feel I have to go all out to make the most of it. I owe it to myself and to them for giving me the opportunity.

Somehow I need to learn not to listen to my negative imagination and to make frequent calls to people even when I am feeling that communication is difficult. A big part of the job is no "people skills" with a focus on "managing client expectations" and having "difficult conversations" i.e., telling people they can't get it in the time they want or they can't get the product they want at all... and steering them to some other solution.

I am not at all good at this. I can get very anxious about it. I have to really work a persona and stay focused on some other goal that I can define this as a part of in order to get through it.

All in all it somewhat terrifies me, but I am aware that my emotions are a broken system, so I am going to try not to let it get to me and just get on with meeting all the requirements of the job, minimizing my exposure to the things I am worst at and maximizing my reputation for the things I am best at.

And practicing controlled breathing.



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03 Jul 2014, 3:13 am

You are lucky as hell to find a company like that in 2014. Good for you.


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