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I am starting this job in a weeks time where I am mostly working in a office for 3 months.


I am very stressed because I have been unemployed for a few years. What is upsetting me though is because of my aspergers I find it harder to drift of to sleep and need a few extra hours in bed in the morning to catch up.. In this job i have to get up in the morning at 6:30 and have to be at the office by 8:30. My brother and parents bullied me into a corner and forced to get this job overs wise I will be a disgrace and financial burden on them and society. My parents do have a lot of money though. What they don't understand is how work stress and lack of sleep will impact my behaviour at home and my mental health.

The people that work at the council offices are aware I have AS and my mum explained to them I find it more difficult to sleep cause of my AS.


I desperately need some help from you guys on how I am going to get around this issue

Parents can be annoying about pushing people into jobs. It happens to me too, so I know how it is. I'm sure you'll be fine, though =)

But what makes you stressed about this job?

When it comes to sleep, there are a few things you can do to sleep easier :

• Keep a consistent sleeping pattern
• Chamomile tea just before you go to bed.
• Medium to intense physical activity in the evening ( go for a jog or something like that )
• Stay away from anything with a screen the last hour before you go to bed

I try to break down my choices when people upset me.

Here it seems like you have a few choices. You could look for a way to sleep better, try the job and let it not work out, try it and see what happens, or change your mind and not try it. Separate the sleep issue from the pressure issue. I would ask myself is this job something I want/need to try for my family? And the go from there

It's annoying when your family back you intoa corner.


What do you mean try the job and let it not work out?

I have trouble falling asleep, too. I have tried loads of advice over the years, but, what finally ended up working for me was further reducing the light sources in my room (very distracted by lights coming in the window from the surrounding houses and the smoke detector, heavier curtains and a piece of electrical tape took care of them), and I now sleep with headphones on, listening to books on tape to drown out environmental sounds (cars, animals, snoring husband etc).

I still have to fight the urge to stay up late reading or playing a game, it's a matter of self control for my case.

Best of luck as you find what works for you.

This thread is meant to be discussing how to make my employers and family understand my sleep problems.

I meant it seemed like maybe you didn't want to take the job and your family made you, but wasn't sure. If people back me into a corner sometimes it's due to lack of understanding therefore if I'm to get out of the situation I have to specifically ask for some kind of help or accommodation. But that presupposes that I want to make what's being asked of me work.

If I don't feel it's something I can be successful at I may say I will try, however, these problems exist, I have no solution.

I'm not holding myself out as an example just saying the fact that you were pressured into agreeing to this job doesn't mean you have to make it work if that isn't possible. Doing your best without it being self destructive is an option if you're ok with being fired as better than refusing to try.

If better sleep would help you could try to do things to improve your sleep as was suggested.....but if your family is interfering with your sleep you could also make a specific request like for them to not be negative with you, for example, as it is upsetting and interferes with your falling asleep . Not saying it would work, just, who doesn't fall asleep more easily if they don't have to listen to people harassing them. If they're causing some of the problem you can politely explain what they can do to help. If they don't, well, they know they don't want you up at 6:30 as much as they say now, don't they. And you know, too, even if they don't admit it.

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Um, you're welcome.

I can't control what people do or do not understand, so, I tend to focus instead on things within my control. My humblest apologies for getting off track.

Sort your sleep problems out and you won't have to explain anything.

So

I just finished watching Louis Theroux's episode of Autism:Extreme love

IT WAS HEART BREAKING!

But finally he mentioned how touched he had been by his aquaintances with Autism Spectrum Disorder people
and then he added how in AWE he was of their parents
for their genuine LOVE, their patience, their persevarance and their hope....

Jamesy,
I don't believe your family have any of the abilities or qualities to raise an Aspy in this modern world that an Aspie needs!