A good enough reason or not?

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My mom got me a 3 month contract at my local council doing full time work (8:45-4:00)

She could of got part time work for me. I have sleeping difficulties, learning difficulties and aspergers.

So is me having those problems listed above a good enough reason for why she should have got me part time work or not? I am really upset with my mum for not getting part time work

I get your point, I really do. You are already assimilating this into your current future and seriously wish it fit better with your issues and needs because that would afford you better and less stressful opportunity to be successful at this endeavor.

But can you hear yourself?
This sounds amazingly self-centered.
You're 25, be glad she hasn't kicked you out of the house!
1. You are a full grown adult.
2. Your Mother got you a job, for chrissakes.
3. You're "really upset" she didn't get you something even better.

I don't care how aspie you are, for your own good, pull your head out and grow up.
You don't have to feel appreciative, nor feel that it's a good thing, nor that it's wonderful. But you do have to keep your mouth shut if you don't feel those things, because that's what real grownup adults do.
Because:
-It's polite not to complain when people go out of their way to do nice things for you.
-People may stop doing "nice things" for you and then you'll really be permanently F*cked with a capital FU.
-It makes you look like a disrespectable A*sshole.
-It makes all aspies look like disrespectable A*ssholes.

I am not saying that any of these things are true about you. I am only saying that verbalizing these feelings makes you look like a complete jerk to just about everyone.
It's not good to look like a jerk.
Don't ever appear to expect anyone to do anything that you didn't pay them to do.

Other than that, you can be mad at your mom for any reason you want to.

I can't tell from what you wrote how sleeping difficulties, learning difficulties, and asperger's give you problems with full-time work so I have no opinion either way.

Last edited by animalcrackers on 10 Oct 2014, 3:17 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Thank you that was brilliant advice

I can sympathize with why the issues you list may make it challenging to work full time hours; I totally get it. And I get why you wish it was the part time hours -- I too would find the part time position easier to deal with. Totally get that.

On the bright side, it's only for three months? That's a lot better than if this were a permanent position and not the hours you would prefer or need. Try to keep in mind it's only three months, and it might help you cope with the fact that it's longer hours than you wanted.

Also, think about the better money the full time hours will make you, and what you can do with those earnings (aside from helping out mum with household expenses).

Well, see how it goes. If it doesn't work you can drop down to part time later. Your mother obviously has faith in your ability to do it.

I wish my mum could get me work.

The thing with work, though, is that once you've had a job, it's easier to find other jobs. So if you can stick with this one for a while, it'll make it easier to find a part time one that will be more suitable for you.

i would at least try the job, and be very thankful that i got one trough someone else (mother or otherwise).

i haqve simular problems, yet i manage decently in fulltime jobs; working actually helped me with my speeling problems. actually doing something during the day made me tired and wanting to sleep, which in turn made me sleep better (it's much easier to sleep when you are tired then just sleeping becouse it's late).
learning difficuties ar enot a reason to not work fulltime, it only makes you a tad slower to get to know the job, and are more a reason to work fulltime that against (fulltime makes it easier to learn the job).
aspergers affects your working either way, so it is also not a reason to not work fulltime, just ask your employer if you can take "smoke breaks" to calm down again.
i have had engaging jobs as well where i could not manage a full session in between the bigger breaks, but since many collegues smoked and took several short breaks to do so (and i dont smoke), i was able to negociate also taking a few minutes to cool down every now and again, as if i was going to have a sig.

Wow, 3 months full time work, that's awesome!

Why would you be upset with your mum? There's many people out there who have trouble getting any work at all. Many would be grateful to be standing in your shoes.

You may not realise it now but this is a great opportunity. You've got your foot in the door at a place of employment, it may not be something you particularly like (most starting jobs aren't) but it's a stepping stone to greater things. Time to harden up, knuckle down and give 101% at your new job, even if you don't feel like it. Make a good impression here and you're in a much better position to move into work more suited to your desires. Most of us started our careers doing work we didn't like, it's just a fact of life.

Don't blow this opportunity to secure your future OP!