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Hello everyone, I'm new here, I'm a 50year old Aspie man who has just lost his job last Friday. After a near year long selection exercise, delayed mostly by medical issues and a difficult medical practitioner I was chosen to participate in an intensive 8 week training program with a large squad of 30 people. I experienced a huge amount of stress for the first 3 weeks, tried my very very best to "fit in" and socialise but finally was terminated on Friday. had no warning at all, was called into the manager's office and told that I had made offensive comments to my colleagues ( of which I have either no recollection or was a misinterpretation/ opinion of someone else) and then told due to this and the fact that I wasn't "fitting in" that I was to finish immediately. I am devastated. I am feeling worthless and useless.

hiya Somewhat welcome to our club some days it just isn't worth getting outta bed.

Thank you yes, it feels that way sometimes.
Was a brutal reminder of both the world we live in and my shortcomings. I'm lucky to have the support of my wife, she is amazing.
Tomorrow I'm going to try my local disability employment agency, see if there's anything they can do. A change of career is needed.

it is a nice thing to be able to have someone in our corner.

yes, I don't know how I'd cope without the guidance and supports I get. Here where I live there's nothing at all for the adult aspie.

try living out in the sticks with a bunch of yahoos, for size. that is my daily reality.

yeah that'd be harsh.

especially with a physical disability which limits one's motions.

this is where I'm fortunate. I am able bodied, fairly strong as well. My disabilities are all in my head.

yes, it is good that you remember that you still have much to be thankful for

I'm struggling against depression, shame, futility and uselessness. Against this seductive mix I put health, support and humility to work, acknowledging the efforts of those who believe in me, even when I don't.

I've long retreated to my own private world that doesn't care about my external and internal limitations.

As long as you are safe there.

I am a hermit living in a tin can surrounded by tall trees, with my closest neighbor several hundred feet away. I go out once per week for groceries. otherwise I try to remain invisible to the outer world.

There aren't many service for adult autistics anywhere.

I'm sorry you lost your job. That sucks. Especially for as vague a reason as "not fitting in." I have faced rejection before to and it's hard. But ultimately this is only one episode in your life - and often I've found that it's not what happens to me, but how I deal with it that is important.

Hey guys. Stumbled on to your thread here and want to offer my support for what it is worth. I don't have anything to say in particular, about your situation, except that reading your replies, auntblabby, and the ensuing dialogue, was surreal to the point of me wondering if both of you were impersonating me having a conversation with myself. I have posted about my own work woes to an extent (Have you ever gotten in trouble for swearing at work?" and "Your thoughts?"),, which parallel yours, SomewhatHatstand, except that I have not been fired... yet. Probably thanks to my disclosure and an accommodation process that was brutal and remains so. However,. my boss is starting to say that I am behaving aggressively toward staff and that some are scared of me, and some staff are speaking and acting against me, so my long term prospects remain vague. Auntblabby, I too also contend with the rural life, and do also live in a tin box in the sticks 150 feet from my closest neighbor; the rest are more like 300 or more feet from me, and some of them only live here in parts of the summer.

Again I feel for you. It is not easy. At all. And I am sorry you lost your job; next time I would disclose immediately on hire, but that's my perspective. Though I can't say my experience has been so wonderful that I enthusiastically endorse it. I am glad you have your wife. Try not to be short with her. I am thankful for those in my corner too. They are a blessing.