Do you sit with your co workers during break at work?

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It takes me a long time to warm up to people so I would sit by myself at work when I first started. But then through work I kind of bonded with my coworkers and started to enjoy sitting with them. I never really said much but sometimes I had something some sort of input when I sat with them. flash forward to now, same company but I got a job in a different department and new co workers. now I'm back to sitting by myself again.

I marked 'No' because my preference would be to not to sit with others, but they usually insist on being right on top of you and cop an attitude if you don't want to sit with them. So, I usually do eat with others unless I can figure out a way to avoid having to do so ( working through lunch, 'forgetting' to bring a lunch, whatever works ).

I'm not sure which option to pick myself because I like to be by myself most of the time and a small percentage of the time with people. if you sit with a group for 4 days and on the fifth day you sit by yourself they think your depressed or find it strange that you don't want to sit with them.

It's always politic to sit with the group. It sucks, but the alternative is social awkwardness. So really, there is no break. I attended a job preparedness program and they told us that not socializing during breaks is often looked down on by management.
I think this is a fundamental difference between nts and autistics. They feed off the social exchange, so not wanting to participate is an insult to them. Like refusing to eat a meal prepared for you. I don't get it myself, why is it so bad to sit and read a book for a few minutes?

I tend to do my own thing during breaks.

However...I'm the Court Jester -- so they really don't care if I hobnob with them.

I sit in my car and eat my lunch. Always have. Even when I have coworkers I talk with. I need the down time.

I found break time to be easier when I smoked cigarettes. Awful habit, but easy way to find work buddies. Something about standing around smoking opens up conversation by itself. Could never figure out why.

Today I sit in the car with my wife, who works with me, so Im glad to have someone there. But we both are outsiders in an office of only about 20. And I've been there close to three years now. I dont care if anyone is insulted because that's just how I am and how I am comfortable. My life is to make myself comfortable, not others, so I tend not to bend to social expectations, even less so as I age.

My goal is the same, comfort. But I find the social awkwardness is not worth the momentary comfort of solitary.

When I used to have a job I'd usually spend my breaks alone so I could just unwind.

In my office, we don't actually have a break room, just a fridge and a microwave sitting in a hallway, so everyone just eats at their desks and works through lunch or goes out. We are at least right across the street from a very nice park, so I usually get out and take a walk over my break whenever the weather allows.

Usually I am the first person at work except Billing, and therefore the first to go on break. Billing takes breaks lots later than me for some unknown reason.

My shift is exactly eight hours, I'm not allowed overtime, and I've actually gotten reminders about the Employee Manual specifying 90 to 120 minutes between breaks. Seems they don't enforce that for billing, but for me that means

clock in at 7:30
take a morning break between 9:30 and 9:45 (I push this as late as I can if there's a heavy workload, but I get scowled at if I take it after 10:15 or so)
Lunch generally from 11:30 to 12:15, sometimes as late as 12:00 to 12:45
Afternoon break either 2:15 to 2:30 or 2:30 to 2:45.

If I deviate from this much I worry about the supervisor or the manager putting another page from the Employee Manual on my desk and calling it a "written warning" this time.

Happily, this means I'm usually at lunch before people start coming in for their later breaks almost all the time. Others rarely sit near me or talk to me. That's fine, I'm not good at talking and eating at the same time, and I eat very slowly. If I had to try to talk to co-workers, I would be stressed out about table manners, unable to chew thoroughly, and have to choose between participating in the conversation OR eating my lunch that NThubby packs for me OR trying to do both and probably choking because I had to swallow so I could say something. I can't swallow partially chewed food, it quite literally gets caught in my throat. To find out why google eosinophilic esophogitis. Not fun. Must. Chew. Thoroughly. Don't ask me questions, I need to chew and swallow for the full 45 minutes or I won't consume enough calories for the remaining 4 hours of my shift!

that's a really good point I only really feel safe in my car. I just feel awkward just siting out in the open by myself.
of course allot do this but they just stare at their phone and the pressure is kind of off them. I use to do this and just enjoyed reading news but that would have to kill your data plan if you did it everyday. I personally don't even have a smart phone anymore.

Yeah Im totally anti smart phone, so it's all car for me. Just the same boring turkey and cheese sandwich and some music or quiet staring. I even drive to a local shopping center just so I dont have to look at the building I work in or anyone I work with.

I've never been comfortable eating with other people, and I'm an introvert, and I need downtime, and most of the company and I have drastic differences in opinion regarding cosmology so...I eat in my car. And typically get in a bit of reading. It's really quite enjoyable. Luckily, there's a semi-wilderness area within walking distance that has a huge, empty parking lot on one border.

I don't have any problem sitting by my classmates during lunch breaks unless they are smoking(sensory issue). Listening and talking with them is quite fun actually(I am "active but odd" subtype) and it is better then sitting in the corner by myself and doing nothing - it would break my "social mode". I can stay in it for many hours straight and then recover after getting to my house but if I let myself take a break faster it is hard for me to return to the mode after just a few minutes of recovering.
Besides - the breaks are too short for me to truly focus on something. Reading for 5 mins won't do it for me because I want to read at least one full chapter.

I only get alone when I experience sensory overload and can't stand it anymore. But in that case the short alone time is not enough to fix me and I am in "nearly shutdown mode"(I can communicate but I feel like I am falling asleep) for the rest of day.

As a vendor, my job is completely solitary so there really is no time to sit down and eat other than when I have to drive to my next location. Most times, I work straight through with no breaks.

Nope. It's just me and QVC.