Quitting my job

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I've been there five months and can't take it anymore. The bullying has escalated and I tried to stay away from those people at work but just before the Christmas holiday one woman would not leave me alone. She's manipulative and an emotional abuser. I was sent home by the manager after I told her I was not feeling well. (Easier than trying to explain. This low level manager is helpless to do anything as the higher ups are bullies themselves and corrupt)So I lost two days of pay. On my way out the bullying lady ran across my work place, stopped me and was very passive aggressive and let me know that she knew I wasn't really sick (as I had told my manager) then spoke to me like I'm slow and have mental issues. She made me to feel like her bullying earlier was all my fault somehow. I know I have difficult with social issues, but this was not my fault. My entire Christmas break I was panicked and thinking about work. I've brought up issues before and they've been swept under the rug. I'm also not getting paid for all the hours I'm working and not getting my legal break. It's a toxic environment. I'm having my partner double check my contract tonight then putting in my resignation.

I don't have a job lined up but after talking to my partner about this, he said just quit, it's not worth being panicked every moment of the day. I'll figure something out. I think I should only need a week's notice. I don't think I could go back there as I think my boss will scream at me. (I've heard her scream constantly at another employee for around 25 minutes straight one day and it was terrifying.)What is a good way to explain to them that I don't think it's best that I come back period, even for that week?

What kind of job is this? It sounds more like high school than an adult working environment.

Basically I work at a college cafeteria. Most of the employees are at least 26-60 strangely for being a job that one would think the college kids would be doing. I would have expected my stress to come from the customers which are young and often bordering rude to awful but the stress comes from management and staff.

You should try for a more office-oriented position.

Or at least a place where they have standards, and treat you with respect. If you happen to have a Costco near where you live---apply there!

Are you going to college at present?

No going to college atm but I went to college years ago and studied anthropology. Right now I'm studying computer repair on my own. I took my first exam at a nearby college (Not the one I work at) and passed it and now studying for the next to get certified. Eventually I want to do clean room hard drive repair/recovery. I like working with my hands and problem solving.

No Costco nearby. If possible I want to get an internship or work/shadow with a computer repair place.
I think the rest from a job will do me good for at least a month. Right now I have some medical issues that is making even standing around painful.

I like anthropology/archaeology.

Strange that you're both saying this about anthropology. We have some anthropologists in my department (at grad school) and they are the best kinds of people. Thoughtful, kind, interesting people. I have never met a bad anthropologist.

Find another job-any job, and quit. Then do something interesting in school- whether that's computer repair or anthropology or whatever else! Life is too short to be stressed out.

At a local Walmart, there's a contract business which fixes cell phones, including replacing cracked glass. This business might have a brighter future than desktop repair.

80% of new businesses fail. Yes, 8 out of 10.

Out of honesty and fair play and everything else, I think I need to include that. Think of a business you can run out of your car or home, and hopefully the initial expenses are not too much more than business cards and a basic web presence.

Unionized?

I think it's okay to lie in self-defense in this kind of hostile work environment. Other people may disagree, but the way they treat people, I think it's okay to take care of yourself. One approach might be:

'I have a family situation I have to take care of. I have to take a couple of days off.'

Be brief, polite, matter-of-fact. Whether your voice cracks or doesn't crack, either way is perfectly okay. Like a good actor, just go with it. Don't volunteer more information about what type of situation. It's none of their business anyway.

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It's somewhat more standard to give two weeks notice, although you can take some days off during these two weeks. But if you're in the process of doing one week, that's fine, go with that.

Sorry, SocOfAutism I'm a bit confused on what you are referring to.


AardvarkGoodSwimmer: Thank you for the advice. At the present I'm renting and it states in the contract no home businesses where I reside. I think before I do something like that there are a few skills I am lacking. Basic accounting and basic information on how to run a business. Something to look into studying though. Also, I have to file taxes for two different countries so would like to avoid making taxes more complicated at the moment if I can.

Fnord: Yes I believe it is unionized, although there is some very shady stuff going on at that place, I don't even know if the union would be on the up and up.


Anyway, I quit, put my notice in and am signed off. I had some physical issues that made doing the job painful. They were not happy and tried to get me to come back staying they'd put me in a location I asked to be moved to before (but was laughed at and denied). If I had forwent my notice for another month then I would have to put in several months notice instead of one week. Being as my boss never moves people when they asked to be moved and says they can just quit - I don't think she would have actually moved me or if she did let me remain there after I got locked into a longer contract. Either way my boss couldn't stand that I didn't put a reason why I was quitting although I did not have to. Boss called me and tried to sweet talk me with this really creepy fake concerned voice while hammering me with questions until I nearly had a break down. Apparently I'm stupid for quitting and they would have made any accommodations for me. (Despite me discussing this before and being laughed at or told certain people can't help bullying and it's not their fault they do it. It's just "how they are". ) My bosses call confirmed I had to leave and I did not retract my resignation. Now I will see if they want to pay me because that seems to be an issue now.

Regardless I will find a job. But for now I need to try to relax. I can't go into a new job agitated and freaked out. Just thinking of my job, employees and tomorrow being a Monday (despite me not working)puts me into a panic attack.

I hope all that made sense. I can't seem to make sentences that make any sense lately.

How, exactly, were you bullied?