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My brother said to me once in regards to me entering the workforce "your not imposing people will walk all over you"

Could you maybe explain what my brothe mean by that in more detail?

I would think that he means that people will take advantage of your perceived weakness. But why don't you just ask him what he means?

My brother gets annoyed with me asking questions so maybe not best idea.




By the way am 5ft7 inches tall and weigh 150 pounds could that something to do with what he mean maybe?

Probably that you don't look physically intimidating, but I'm only speculating

I don't think even building loads of muscle at 5'7 can look intimidating. Being tall is a key factor to look intimidating

Don't be a jerk.

Stand up for yourself.

Listen to what people have to say.

Join in conversations about something like football.


If you do these things, your height won't matter.

I'm shorter than you....and I've never been bullied at work except for one time back in 1980.

When someone says "your not imposing" are they referring to your physical appearance or mental strength?

There are bullies in the workplace just like at school or jail.

The more nerdy the job the less chance of there being bullies.

The person is referring to your physical appearance only.

Not many men are "imposing," anyway.

You have to be, say, 6 foot 3 and at least 220 lbs or so in order to be "imposing."

That statement there embodies why your brother thinks the way he does.

I don't think he meant it that you're not physically imposing- that doesn't really matter in the workplace. Some of the most imposing people I've met were short.

I think he meant as some sort of an advice (though it was poorly formulated): if you let others walk all over you, if you don't stand up for yourself, others might treat you badly. Some of them anyway. It's not a guarantee.

As someone who's been heavily bullied at teenager, I find being in the workforce is a lot better than school, so try not to worry to much about this.

Yep. People GROW UP. They have better things to do than to bully somebody.

Life is not like high school.

I still think his brother was saying that he's not PHYSICALLY imposing. Yet I would agree that his height really doesn't matter in a place of work.

If you're saying that bullies suddenly undergo some type of transformation after or during high school I'd have to respectfully disagree with you.

However if your intent was was to indicate bullies eventually learn of other things to do (except police of course) in conjunction with bullying then I might agree. My experience has been that leopards seldom, if ever, change their spots. Sad but true.

I believe his brother was saying essentially BOTH meanings, otherwise he'd have used modifiers.

He could have meant to say that you're too quiet. Some people think that quiet people don't get listened to or promoted to positions of respect in the workplace, but that's simply not true.

As a talkative person, I naturally listen to quiet people more than other talkative people. Many of my friends are quiet and they use that to their advantage to show themselves as authorities in their given field.