Can't cope with work any more

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Help I really cannot cope with work any more. I only do 3 days a week, but I dread each day I work.

I do cleaning at a care home 6 hours in the day, and it may sound like an easy, quiet job, but it is not. My supervisor is on to me all day, and forces me to do extra tasks if I'm finished my wing 10 minutes early, which then makes me late turning up for the essential clean in the dinner room, which I then get told off for.

I feel like I'm being slightly more pressured than the other cleaners and it causes distress for me. I have trouble keeping track of time, but I do stress about it, and my supervisor knows how stressed I get. She's nice as a person, but ever since she became my supervisor she's been kind of a butt-kisser to the boss, and although I have yelled at her a few times to stop flustering me, she still seems to think she can boss me about.

I need to leave. But then, what if all jobs are like this? Do all jobs have a bossy supervisor who hassles you about your work? If that's the case, then I don't think I want to work any more.

But I don't have the choice. I am too high-functioning to claim any benefits, but I am too anxious to work. I hate being me.

You could complain in writing to her boss, write what you wrote here that the way she organizes your job makes you late and then she's telling you off.
Do you have diagnosis? If so you could request accommodations for example list of extra tasks prepared in advance, in writing, so that you could decide yourself when to do them, or whatever you think could work.

Do not yell.

^ I 2nd that - but I think it would be better to talk to your boss face2face/hand it over personally, if you can.

I was thinking of telling the boss, in the politest way possible, because I don't want the boss to think I'm grassing or trying to get myself out of having to do so much work or anything. It's just that I'm the type of worker who does better when using my initiative. Stress and anxiety beings me down in almost every situation in life. I should tell that to the boss too.

With what I said about every job being pressurizing like that, it's just what people tell me when I say I want a different job. They say "that's what work is, you're very lucky if you find a job that's laid-back."

You should definitely not make any great complains to your boss if you want to keep your job. Be it in writing or face2face. I can't believe that you even yelled at your boss and still didn't get fired. You must be very lucky!

If you want the boss to back off, then improve your work and take initiative. If you're getting late, then get a watch with a big ass timer to show the boss that you're doing something about it. Do things by the timer and simply show the boss that you do things the way she wants. After that the boss will back off.

If you want to switch a job, then it's best to have another job offer in your hands before quiting your current job.


good luck!

I hate being me too. Hope your stress eases up at work.

Could you make sure that you never finish your wing early? Would it be possible to go stall/repeat a section if you are ahead of time (clean an area that you already have or take a lot of care on your last few rooms).

I have worked what was (on paper) the same job for two different companies; one of them was good to work for, the other was not. Changing location may be better (or far worse!).

Have you disclosed your AS? Could you make an official complaint against your supervisor?