I'm not ready

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I'm just not ready to start work again, after a year and a half away. This new job is something I've got 0 experience in. I didn't even want it. But my family guilt-tripped me into accepting the offer anyway. I start tomorrow.

All I want is a few more months to finally get back on track and start working out my issues with a therapist. But they just shut me down before I even got to that.

Glassdoor doesn't exactly paint a rosy picture of the company I'll be working at either.

(with the employer)
"I'm sorry, I made a mistake. Now is not the right time."
or finagle accommodations: sensory, written, part-time...

I'm not "out" at work, but I've started saying "what works well for me..." (or would work better...)

Teasing: Can you guilt-trip yourself out of it? (with your parents) e.g. list negative consequences or concerns (presented as likelihoods, not defensively)

Sorry for the pressure.

Where I live, things aren't that progressive. I'm just waiting to get fired now, I guess.



Eh...I think that's just as difficult, if not even more difficult, to pull off.



Hah nah, that's the first thing I tried as I said, they told me to just ride it out or something. The thing is, I don't even have the capacity to try things out right now. Wrestling with the challenges I was unfortunate enough to have been born with is already draining enough.

That stinks. Hopefully you have a somewhat decent manager? so it's a bit less miserable and maybe even a bit good?


It's tricky figuring out what can work (if anything) in certain environments. I hope yours is bearable. I am super socially naïve (or factitious?) so "get away" with these things.


If you are dependent on your parents, I can see how it would be especially rough (but shouldn't be ). I was independent of my parents before 20, but still it took me until near 50 to take a firm stand for my needs. Just recently I was being told the typical "get a job while you have a job" and I explained that isn't my style. And I know better about myself than others. Finally.


In my support group someone called it exhausted from mental/emotional labor. It seems like too often we are at our wit's end and we're supposed to make others feel better. It's our turn to feel better. (or at least more so)

No one is ever ready to start work though but you go so you can get the money.

The money is the point, don't confuse yourself with any politics of the actual job, you're there to just do the job and go home. Learn as much as you can and actually give it a go, you won't get anywhere if you don't at least try at something. And if it gets into a big mess then just work somewhere else, point being you won't get anywhere if you don't try to at least learn and push forward.

I used to be the same, avoided work as long as possible, now I'm a network engineer and life is great. It's been a horrible process to get to this point though, I hated some of the call centres I used to work in but you just have to deal with it until a better opportunity comes up.