Would being a businessman make me feel content with life ?

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I have mentioned in threads before about the need to compare to fit in and be more content in life. But I seem to think that if I was a business man running my own business (even though I have no idea what my business would be about) I would be happier and content because I'm being my own boss, working hard every day and feeling like there is more of a chance of a better life socially because I'm wearing a suit and I seem to think that people are more attractive in a suit. I know I maybe generalising here but that is how it feels to me. I used to like going out in a suit but in my retail job I don't wear one I just wear a work uniform with the company name on it. It is that jealous feeling kicking in again, I don't understand why I get myself to watch shows like The Apprentice and watch young entrepreneurs rise through the process to win to become Lord Alan Sugar's next apprentice. As I said before I just watch it to see how they perform the tasks they must undertake. I feel one of the reasons behind the jealousy is the age of the contestants and it leaves me thinking to myself ''Why wasn't I doing something he or she is doing at that age ?'' It is as though being in your 20s you are already content with life because you are already running your own business, earning lots of money, and have everything like a nice flashy car and nice suits and stuff. I can't understand why I am feeling this way even though I've told myself and others have told me time and again that they are doing something I don't really want to do and the field of job they are doing doesn't interest me.

Stay in the bookstore.....

And go out in the world more. Then, you will realize that most 20-somethings (and 30-somethings) aren't business executives who wear suits all the time.

Most people, period

It's not that you watch too many TV shows....is that you believe what's on TV reflects reality. It doesn't.

Many people who work in a business environment have to sucker up to their bosses. Sometimes work long hours on seemingly trivial things. It's usually not a pleasant experience for Aspie/autistic-type people. Or for anybody, really.

I knew, from the outset, that I wasn't entrepreneur material. My father was a businessman, so was my brother. He knew it, too. He didn't try to set me up in business---he knew I wouldn't succeed in it.

The idea has merit. When one has a 'job', they're subject to getting fired. Then on to looking for the next job. This approach doesn't suit most ASD. We're not competing on a level playing field most of the time. The of the most commonly complained about parts of the whole job cycle being the interview process. And with the need to take 'any job', we can get caught in many inappropriate jobs.

The next step up from here is the career. Still seeking bosses, but by focusing your path, you become better at defined skill sets and make yourself more valuable overall. Gives a sense of control. Each new job doesn't start cold as a clueless, stressed out newbie.

The next step up is boss. A little more control over the direction of things, what you can wear, not getting fired... But all the responsibility, paper work, stress.

Looks to me like 'Career' is the best level. Greatest control over which direction you develop your skills, industry choice, etc. You can choose a career path that suits your aptitude AND wear the clothes that you like. You can focus on your craft and let your bosses worry about keeping the business afloat.

Plenty of jobs provide the employee with a chance to be "working hard every day". Businessman is just one of them
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"and feeling like there is more of a chance of a better life socially because I'm wearing a suit and I seem to think that people are more attractive in a suit."

Not everyone finds the same thing attractive.

Not everyone wearing a suit, is a businessman.

Not all businessmen wear suits.

Suits are just clothes

It's what is on the inside that counts, for me. But plenty of people care too much about appearances.

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I know I maybe generalising here but that is how it feels to me. I used to like going out in a suit but in my retail job I don't wear one I just wear a work uniform with the company name on it. It is that jealous feeling kicking in again, I don't understand why I get myself to watch shows like The Apprentice and watch young entrepreneurs rise through the process to win to become Lord Alan Sugar's next apprentice. As I said before I just watch it to see how they perform the tasks they must undertake. I feel one of the reasons behind the jealousy is the age of the contestants and it leaves me thinking to myself ''Why wasn't I doing something he or she is doing at that age ?'' It is as though being in your 20s you are already content with life because you are already running your own business, earning lots of money, and have everything like a nice flashy car and nice suits and stuff.

Not every business is financially successful

Some businesses file for bankruptcy

Not all businessmen earn "lots of money" or own flashy cars and nice suits

Not everyone that earns a lot of money, is a businessman

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I can't understand why I am feeling this way even though I've told myself and others have told me time and again that they are doing something I don't really want to do and the field of job they are doing doesn't interest me.[/quote]

Doubt it - but maybe, never know.

I graduated from business school when I was 19. I've had my own business ventures before, and sorta do now just super small scale part time here and there. Back when I was full time at a business project of my own it was just massive stress. My symptoms were also strong.

Anyways, my observation is that you have the trait of identifying yourself and your personal worth as being equal to your profession & socioeconomic status bestowed by a title and maybe the clothes you wear. We are all far more than the jobs we do. I am many different things to many different people. Kiteboarder, God father, uncle, friend, neighbour, adviser, comedian etc - what I am Not is whatever my job is.

FWIW, I'm on the management team of a growing online tech company. I wear blue jeans, hoodies, and a baseball cap to work. It's super relaxed here. I work for my best friend and am paid well for what I do.. but I don't title myself as "business man," and couldn't give a flying F less about wearing a suit & tie unless I have to. A title and a suit doesn't necessarily make a business man.. I mean, sure, there's nothing wrong with dressing the part and the whole "clothes that make the man," and "dress for the job you want," stuff.. but none of that makes you necessarily any good at business - making money, progress, improvements, positive changes & growing businesses does.. and those are the things we do, without titles, in t-shirts and jeans, while cashing nice big fat bonus cheques.

Make it about the work - the journey - not the destination (a simple title and dressing the part) & you'll be much more successful and content in whatever business venture you pursue. And unless you are a major self starter, I highly recommend working for someone else as an employee, joining their team and playing your role on it to the best of your ability. Much less stress.. UNLESS you're able to design yourself a one-man-show type solo gig that totally works for you. If that's your passion, give'er.

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Read rich dad poor dad if you want to find out if the business life is for you it most people are better off just being workers for the business owners but you are not guaranteed a paycheck like a job best of luck to you