Christmas time Job Center "gift" for me... :(

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Yesterday and today I have had several meltdowns about it - damn Job Center gave me an unexpected job offer(I was not expecting any job offers till at least half of January since I got one 2 weeks ago) that is not even fitting my qualifications or abilities (I am supposed to work in the "employee hiring" department, imagine it with my social issues... I was sure next offer will have something to do with IT because I specified I am interested in jobs like that last time I was there and I am about to graduate at IT) to return at 29th December and I didn't even speak with my regular helper because she took days off and the woman I was taking with was apparently new and didn't even know how to use the printer or how to open the case with my files!

I spent last 2 days trying to get in contact with the potential employer and noone was picking up because a lot of people took days off, eventually my mom got pissed off and made a few calls and got in, pretending she is me (I was unable to speak already because I shut down after speaking too much with the office automatic reply and random employers who picked up but were not the person who I was supposed to talk to). She got me booked for job interview on Monday.

I have no idea what do do. I won't be able to return the offer on time because Job Center is open only till 2PM and my interview is at 13PM in different city. My mom says its enough if I call the Job Center on Monday and tell them about the issue so they change the date but I don't know if it works this way - the paper I got specifies exactly "return till 29th December 2014" and for me what I got on paper is more dependable than whatever info I can get by a phone call.

There is so many stuffs that can go wrong... whatever I get the paper too late, get on the interview too late (I have never been there so I will have to find the office), get sick (when going to Job Center for the offer I had to break though a terrible weather and I feel feverish now), or let the employer know I don't want the job I get kicked out of Job Center "waiting list" and lose my hearth insurance and job offers for 3 next months till I can register again. And if I somehow manage to get the job I am going to become a wrack because I can't work with people and also I am unable to work from 7AM till 3PM because its way too early for me. Even during my school times I was often skipping first 2 lessons(7:30 and 8:20) and get to school on 9 AM so I could sleep longer. I am a "night owl" kind of person. I work the best during night hours and morning hours are my sleep time. I can go to sleep at 7AM and wake up at 12AM(of course I prefer falling asleep at 3AM so I get my 9h healthy sleep) and be fresh and ready but when I sleep from 9PM till 6AM I am sleep deprived till weekend(when I sleep till 12AM anyway despite having other pattern of waking up 5 days a week).

The only thing I can do is proving the employer I can't do the job while pretending I want the job so he ticks the "won't be hired because..." instead of "refused to accept the job". I don't know how to make it work. After what my mom told me the employer already assumes I don't want the job: mom told him - pretending to be me - that I never worked in this field and have no idea why JC gave me an offer like that and the employer asked if I want the job. Then my mom said something that made me even more stressed - she said "Of course I want!". I would never say a blunt lie like that. Now I worry how I play it out. The employer will surely realize I am not the one who he talked at phone with and if he mentions it I will surely leak that my mom was using my phone then. And I will probably get me and my mom in problems with law. And even if he misses it the question of me wanting the job will surely come out too. My natural reaction will be telling him the truth - I don't want it because I am not good with people, I don't have experience in that kind of job, I hate waking up early and I am waiting for IT offers because I just finished an IT cram school.

But my mom prohibited me from answering like that. The only answer I am allowed to say is "I want." or "It's up to you to decide whatever I am a good candidate for that kind of job.". I consider both answers rude and unjustified... Why would I lie like that? It won't do any good neither to me or the employer, we just both waste time and energy if I still insist on being tested for a job I don't want and are not even qualified for...

I honestly hate Job Center. How could they do it for me during Christmas time!? As if I haven't had enough problems already. I hate the whole Christmas mess. And I am supposed to study for my cram school graduate exam. Its a hard one.
I cant allow myself to have anymore stress!
Why would they do it to me?!
It's so unfair!

I'm equating your situation to being on unemployment insurance.

You only get the benefit if you are willing and able to work.

That means, if you are referred to a job, you apply and go to the interview if one is extended.

There are a lot of subtle ways to throw an interview without saying, "I don't want the job." You can simply show a lack of interest in the interviewer or the interview (appear distracted...not hard for people with AS to do). You can say things that illustrate you really aren't qualified for the job...most times the employer will pick a person with experience, not someone who knows nothing about it.

Heck, if you have a shutdown during the interview, that should seal your fate nicely (that's a joke...btw).

Never say you don't want the job. Never refuse a job that's offered.

I'm at the point in life that if I'm working and miserable, and I qualify to receive UI benefits, I will not quit my job. If they want to fire me, I'll let them fire me so I get my benefits. It's not a disqualification to not be able to do the job to their satisfaction.

This is so tragic it makes me laugh... I just checked the "soft" skills for the job I got offer for (HR). They are exact opposite of common Asperger traits. LOL

- Empathy
- Good communication skills
- Good social skills
- Ability to work in a team
- Organizational capabilities

It must be some sort of mistake. My regular helper knows I have AS so she wouldn't give me a job like that! It must be a stupid idea of the unexperienced replacement helper.

I've been watching Daria for about 6 months now; I like what I see!

Truthfully, they don't understand Asperger's or autism at job centers. Their task is to find you a job, any job. I wish they would look at your training more--but, many times, they don't.

I hope you do get an IT job soon. You seem like you'd be skillful at it....and at anything having to do with fixing things. You'd be ideal as a handyperson type, I believe.

That sounds about as competent as jobcentres here. When I was jobhunting, now and then they pick out roles you have to apply for which should match your skills. I was told to apply for a job requiring "an experienced railway administrator". I had no experience of railways or administration. Funnily enough I never heard back from them. I know a lot of people who have had to go to the jobcentre and only one who found them anything better than a comedy of uselessness when it comes to helping them actually find work. I had to "agree" types of work I was looking for, in practice I was looking for science and engineering jobs, but my "agreement" said retail, admin and care (I had no interest in or experience of any of those), because my advisor didn't actually give me a say in it, and I suspect that was a big pile of gender stereotyping. Another time when I was signed up with a temp agency either someone had modified my CV (it does happen) or just hadn't read it and they thought I had typing qualifications.

It went fine. After seeing my papers the interviewer asked me why the hell I got this offer and all I had to say was "I don't know, I was surprised as well". Then I got "Recrutation in process"(which means they didn't decide anything yet) on the JC paper and I was free to go. I believe they are not going to contact me for this job but there is a chance for them to call me if they need someone for computers or accounting. I hope not. The place is scary.

I got overwhelmed right away. In the room I got invited in were 3 workers and each of them was constantly speaking through phone and to each other. At a point one of them was speaking through 2 phones and asking her co-worker something at the same time. What a pain... I would go crazy if I were to stay there longer than 20 mins. Even as much was enough for me to space out which caused me to trip twice after leaving the building and fall down in the snow outside once. I bet the security guard had fun looking at me.
My back and arm hurt for next 3 days.

It probably happened in part because the most qualified people at the job centre were off for the holidays and you dealt with the least qualified people.